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Ha. I am kinda too, I think. Plus moving 3000 miles away where I know no one. I am kinda getting lonely, while the hubby is at work. :(
@hisbunny: Oh no! You moved away from everyone?! :( I can't imagine what you're going through. It stinks, the wedding day was AMAZING but I miss the planning process :( I need a goal, something to plan for a while!
I am fortunate that my preferred state is relaxation, so the lack of wedding planning has been a blessing. But, now I am looking into starting my own business / getting a new job. That's the most important thing to me right now.
My good friend was married last April and went through the PWD - she channeled her energies into starting new routines with her hubby and building their house. On the routines/hobbies front, she decided to have family dinner once a week, and another day a week teach her husband to cook (toast was a stretch for him). She's still working at it, but I think those things helped stress the idea that the wedding is for the marriage, and she is living it.
Lees, you will snap out of it eventually, but it's hard. Concentrate on job, school, house, or the hobbies that you have put on the back burner for the past year!
@lees - yeppers.... So you need a goal? Did you write all your thank you notes yet? hee hee... that is a FUN one. :P You should journal all the things that you remember from the wedding, or you could volunteer somewhere (like at a library and read to kids). A goal. Hmmm.... join Soldiers angels and make boxes to send stuff to millitary personnel that are overseas.
Just trying to throw ideas out there.
Today I have to start unpacking 27 boxes that just came yesterday. My dad gave me a GMC Yukon (that I have been driving for the past 4 years) and it was just sent down on a truck from AK to ND FULL of all the wedding gifts and my stuff. :)
@Melissa: Wonderful advice!! I think family dinners & doing things you love with your family & future are the most important things. I can definitely see how that will show you that the wedding IS for the marriage. Thank you for the reminder!
It's just so tough getting over the wedding planning, and I'm still so intrigued by it but I don't want to look at any wedding websites, etc. because then I'll just get even more depressed.
But thank you for the advice, me & my husband are thinking about building our home & we are definitely going to look into that sooner than later.
Aww, I'm sorry! I worry about this too. We have been engaged for almost a year, and still have nine months to go until the wedding. I have devoted so much time to the planning, I am afraid I will be depressed too.
We are planning on buying a house within 3-4 after the wedding, so I think that will keep me occupied. Plus I have having an elective surgery done, so I am eager for that.
OH Lees, that's awful. I, like Melissa, will probably be thrilled to get my life back... plus I have a few business ideas that I want to get into after the wedding. I am also looking foward to being able to take a weekend and go away with my soon to be husband.
I would say that you just need something to fill up your free time - and keep posting here, that will fill some of the planning void.
So sorry to hear you are sad. I know lots of girls go thru it.. I hope others are able to share stories with you about what they did.
lees - oh boy, once you start down that road, especially if you BUILD a home, you will be busy! Instead of picking out colors for your invites, you'll be picking out faucets, tile, counters, wall colors, grout colors, molding, trim, door handles, you name it.
My husband actually would be the one that suffered from PWD, if you can believe it! He really enjoyed planning and getting everyone together. His distractions are planning other (future) trips, and he just got a commercial grade espresso machine. He will be learning the ins and outs of brewing coffee/espresso and making all kinds of beverages.
Oh Lees I just want to give you a hug you sound so sad! I must admit I'm aware that I will be feeling the same way. We're all here for ya!
@Melissa: Gosh I know!! If we do build our home, that will be a full time job in itself! :) Hopefully we can do it. We've got plenty of land, it's just DOING it. & I don't even know how those "construction loans" work, so I've got to look into that!
It's crazy that your husband is the one suffering from PWD! Usually it's the other way around..haha! But that's good that he's putting his mind towards the coffee deal :)
& thank you so much @hrev! I'm glad yall are here for me. You are all AMAZING!!
My plans for after the wedding is over are to get back into knitting. I have let it go while I have been planning. Also we are going to finish our basement and I have to figure out how we are going to do that. Plus some other home projects. I hope this will help me not be depressed.
Also I have started looking at blogs that are home related and marriage related so I have some thing to read after the wedding planning is over. I will try looking for other blogs to pass the time on line.
@lees - you can come help plan my wedding! I've lost all the fun of it and I only have 178 days to go... lovely family in law are making it unbearable and not fun at all!
aww @Lees, hang in there girly! i'm sure i will feel just like you post-wedding!
well, besides being an active board bee that gives tons of great advice/feedback in the hive, if you miss the DIY aspect of it all maybe you can focus on Holidays and family events to keep your creative thirst satisfied. Homemade Easter cards, decorated eggs for your family, or when Christmas rolls around make ornaments for your family and keep the excitement of an on-going DIY project in your everyday life.
I think the previous posts have wonderful suggestions!!!!!!!!
Oh man...I've already beent hinking about what I'm going to do after I get married. I always am fixated on a project...It's an obsession. I can't help it. Most likely I'll be fixated on buying a house next...after weddding.
Lees, I think you might like this blog alot...http://www.younghouselove.com
I visit almost every day. I love it. It's about a young married couples and all of their DIY adventures. You might like it. It's given me a lot of ideas of projects and things I want to do. I live in an apartment now, but I've still used a lot of their ideas. idk about you, but little projects and stuff like that are always entertaining to me.
Awwww. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I think it's mostly because your marriage is so fresh. Your wedding was just two and a half weeks ago. Give it time and find things to busy yourself with.
You'll definitely get over this feeling :) It just takes a few months.
My husband and I are starting our own business, planning vacations and day trips and entertaining at our house more. That all helped me get over the PWD!
I was so stressed out planning my wedding and I kind of hated it so I'm glad that it is over! Maybe you should start a new hobby so that you have something to keep yourself entertained.
Aww! I am so sorry you are feelng that way. I agree with the girls who have suggested other ways to stay busy...maybe learn to cook/cook better? Or take a class? volunteer? take up scrapbooking (something I did awhile ago and it is amazing)...
I am sure I will feel the same because I am so obsessed and LOVE planning things...I'll just keep busy with things...and a house? that is a HUGE project!!! :) It'll get you back in planning mode!
That's crazy because I feel like after I finish planning the wedding. I will feel the same way. But then I think I'll stick around in the bridal community to help other brides and give advice. :-) maybe you could join thenest.com... It's a site with boards/forums for women already married.
I still miss planning my wedding and I've been married for 1.5 years! During the planning I was kind of over it, but I would now do it again in a heartbeat!
Now, I just keep myself busy with projects around the home...talk about neverending! Also, when there's a party going on I jump at the opportunity to help plan it!
I also loved planning my wedding too so use that energy to plan theme parties. I just threw my husband a 40th brithday party and made a DIY photobooth and enjoyed finding decorations for everything. I also love having Cinco de Mayo parties with sombrero hat picture opportunities.
I'm relieved that the wedding is over! I had a blast, it was the best day ever, but now I just feel so relaxed. When I get a little sad that the day is over, I check out our wedding video and photos, which isn't often since we have been working on thank you notes and sorting where gifts should go and fixing up the house. The other thing I started working on as the photos have been coming in was designing albums to give our parents and grandparents, more than enough to keep my busy with the lack of wedding planning now.
Girl I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I know that I am going to feel the same and have actually worried about it. I am already trying to think of things that we can do to our house after the wedding. I am thinking bathroom remodel! We can start a support group! =) (((Hugs)))
@ BitterOldHag..... whoa you are bitter!! Haha.
@Lees, that's so great that you enjoyed planning the wedding so much! I found it really stressful. I'm sure something new/exciting will come up for you soon!
Thank you ladies! Yall are all awesome. I'm going to take everyone's advice and look into planning parties, remodeling, etc.
@lees - I'm so sorry, girl! Your wedding was GORGEOUS and so are you! This is going to pass, but when something was that big a part of your life for that long, and all of a sudden it's not there, it's easy to feel a little direction-less. You'll find something...is there a hobby that you used to enjoy that you just haven't had time for? I know for me, I used to dance a lot, but haven't been able to do it much, so I'm busily searching for a dance studio where I can take lessons after the wedding. Just a little something for me. And HEY! You're married!! YAYY!
Hey guys - it's probably best not to mention anyone by name... thanks!
Hopefully we can put the focus back on Lees4308!! :-)
I'm so sorry again Mr. Bee! I know it was a pain just dealing with what I put out there. I can't apoligize enough, I won't ever do anything like that again! I honestly didn't intend for it to get so out of hand.
Thank you @mrsmdphd!! That was very sweet of you! I'm so happy that I'm married! I couldn't ask for a better life & husband. I do need to start focussing on other hobbies, possibly dancing or working out! :) Thank you ladies so much!
Sure thing, all good. :-)
You could always start a blog about wedding planning... that worked out for Mrs. Bee!
Or have you considered crafting or scrapbooking? Or getting into cooking?
Hurray for 3/13/10! I must admit I am like " Uh what do I do now" Does anyone have a wedding I can work on? I want to relive my wedding day over and over again. It was truly the best day of my life. So I have something to look forward to I planned a few weekend trips for the summer for us
yah I loved my wedding day I wish I could do it all over again, with my hubby of course, I keep joking let's get married again in the carribean or in a castle in Scotland, he tells me you can only really get married oncein your life, there's never anything else like your real wedding day no matter how many renewal vows you have
but you know then you have your next goal in life, now we are talking about what kind of house we want, and we are planning trips together,just came froma trip in venice it was wonderful going as a married couple; much more meaningful than travelling as singles together
it's all about the next step in life; life goes on, there are hapy times ahead
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I posted something a few days ago about how you ladies need to take advantage of the planning process & have fun with it...& now I'm posting this about how depressed I am that my wedding's over!!! I know I have my whole life with my husband to look forward to, I have kids to look forward to, buying a house, etc. But nothing compares to planning a HUGE event for a year & a half straight!!!
Planning my wedding was the most fun I've EVER had...and then it all resulted in one day...it WAS one AMAZING day, but it just went by so fast...& now I'm sad!!!
What do you married bee's do now that the wedding planning is over to keep yourselves occupied? I need a goal!!!