Post # 1
I posted something a few days ago about how you ladies need to take advantage of the planning process & have fun with it…& now I’m posting this about how depressed I am that my wedding’s over!!! I know I have my whole life with my husband to look forward to, I have kids to look forward to, buying a house, etc. But nothing compares to planning a HUGE event for a year & a half straight!!!
Planning my wedding was the most fun I’ve EVER had…and then it all resulted in one day…it WAS one AMAZING day, but it just went by so fast…& now I’m sad!!!
What do you married bee’s do now that the wedding planning is over to keep yourselves occupied? I need a goal!!!
Post # 3
Ha. I am kinda too, I think. Plus moving 3000 miles away where I know no one. I am kinda getting lonely, while the hubby is at work. 🙁
Post # 4
@hisbunny: Oh no! You moved away from everyone?! 🙁 I can’t imagine what you’re going through. It stinks, the wedding day was AMAZING but I miss the planning process 🙁 I need a goal, something to plan for a while!
Post # 5
I am fortunate that my preferred state is relaxation, so the lack of wedding planning has been a blessing. But, now I am looking into starting my own business / getting a new job. That’s the most important thing to me right now.
My good friend was married last April and went through the PWD – she channeled her energies into starting new routines with her hubby and building their house. On the routines/hobbies front, she decided to have family dinner once a week, and another day a week teach her husband to cook (toast was a stretch for him). She’s still working at it, but I think those things helped stress the idea that the wedding is for the marriage, and she is living it.
Lees, you will snap out of it eventually, but it’s hard. Concentrate on job, school, house, or the hobbies that you have put on the back burner for the past year!
Post # 6
@lees – yeppers…. So you need a goal? Did you write all your thank you notes yet? hee hee… that is a FUN one. 😛 You should journal all the things that you remember from the wedding, or you could volunteer somewhere (like at a library and read to kids). A goal. Hmmm…. join Soldiers angels and make boxes to send stuff to millitary personnel that are overseas.
Just trying to throw ideas out there.
Today I have to start unpacking 27 boxes that just came yesterday. My dad gave me a GMC Yukon (that I have been driving for the past 4 years) and it was just sent down on a truck from AK to ND FULL of all the wedding gifts and my stuff. 🙂
Post # 7
@Melissa: Wonderful advice!! I think family dinners & doing things you love with your family & future are the most important things. I can definitely see how that will show you that the wedding IS for the marriage. Thank you for the reminder!
It’s just so tough getting over the wedding planning, and I’m still so intrigued by it but I don’t want to look at any wedding websites, etc. because then I’ll just get even more depressed.
But thank you for the advice, me & my husband are thinking about building our home & we are definitely going to look into that sooner than later.
Post # 8
Aww, I’m sorry! I worry about this too. We have been engaged for almost a year, and still have nine months to go until the wedding. I have devoted so much time to the planning, I am afraid I will be depressed too.
We are planning on buying a house within 3-4 after the wedding, so I think that will keep me occupied. Plus I have having an elective surgery done, so I am eager for that.
Post # 9
OH Lees, that’s awful. I, like Melissa, will probably be thrilled to get my life back… plus I have a few business ideas that I want to get into after the wedding. I am also looking foward to being able to take a weekend and go away with my soon to be husband.
I would say that you just need something to fill up your free time – and keep posting here, that will fill some of the planning void.
So sorry to hear you are sad. I know lots of girls go thru it.. I hope others are able to share stories with you about what they did.
Post # 10
lees – oh boy, once you start down that road, especially if you BUILD a home, you will be busy! Instead of picking out colors for your invites, you’ll be picking out faucets, tile, counters, wall colors, grout colors, molding, trim, door handles, you name it.
My husband actually would be the one that suffered from PWD, if you can believe it! He really enjoyed planning and getting everyone together. His distractions are planning other (future) trips, and he just got a commercial grade espresso machine. He will be learning the ins and outs of brewing coffee/espresso and making all kinds of beverages.
Post # 11
Oh Lees I just want to give you a hug you sound so sad! I must admit I’m aware that I will be feeling the same way. We’re all here for ya!
Post # 12
@Melissa: Gosh I know!! If we do build our home, that will be a full time job in itself! 🙂 Hopefully we can do it. We’ve got plenty of land, it’s just DOING it. & I don’t even know how those “construction loans” work, so I’ve got to look into that!
It’s crazy that your husband is the one suffering from PWD! Usually it’s the other way around..haha! But that’s good that he’s putting his mind towards the coffee deal 🙂
& thank you so much @hrev! I’m glad yall are here for me. You are all AMAZING!!
Post # 13
Maybe you can become a wedding planner? 🙂
Post # 14
My plans for after the wedding is over are to get back into knitting. I have let it go while I have been planning. Also we are going to finish our basement and I have to figure out how we are going to do that. Plus some other home projects. I hope this will help me not be depressed.
Also I have started looking at blogs that are home related and marriage related so I have some thing to read after the wedding planning is over. I will try looking for other blogs to pass the time on line.
Post # 15
@lees – you can come help plan my wedding! I’ve lost all the fun of it and I only have 178 days to go… lovely family in law are making it unbearable and not fun at all!
Post # 16
aww @Lees, hang in there girly! i’m sure i will feel just like you post-wedding!
well, besides being an active board bee that gives tons of great advice/feedback in the hive, if you miss the DIY aspect of it all maybe you can focus on Holidays and family events to keep your creative thirst satisfied. Homemade Easter cards, decorated eggs for your family, or when Christmas rolls around make ornaments for your family and keep the excitement of an on-going DIY project in your everyday life.
I think the previous posts have wonderful suggestions!!!!!!!!