Post # 1
FH said that he didn’t want me contacting his friends and family for their addresses for our invites. That’s fine (if it comes down to it I have 95% of his guest list on facebook and I can ask his mom for the others). How long do I let it go. He gets mad when I bug him about things too much but he doesn’t seem to get how important things are (we have another issue about our hotel block but that’s a post for another time…). The STD’s are ordered and I want to mail them all at the same time and I’m planning on sending mine in the next 2 weeks (before I go home..I don’t want to answer the same questions 1000 times).
Post # 3
FI’s uncle didn’t get an STD because Fiance didn’t give me his address, i had asked him 10+ times.
3 days before the deadline for having our invitations addressed, I asked again. and said if he didn’t have it to me by friday, his uncle wasn’t getting an invitation either. i got the address in 24 hrs.
Post # 4
@ajillity81: love this! Smply, get it to me by this date or they don’t get an STD or invite. Without any emotion or anything just matter of fact- in the end it’s his family so if someone from his side can’t get an address you’ve done all you can do and it’s not your fault.
Post # 5
@SeaTurtle88: @ajillity81: Thing is I’m not sure if he CARES if his aunts and uncles are there. I know his mother will and I know I’ll never hear the end of it if they don’t get the invites. we were invited to the weddings of both his cousins (one of those we’d been dating not even a year and they invited me after meeting me once). There’s no way they’re not invited, as much as he may not like them (his aunt is a jerk…but so are mine) they’re family and family is invited (even if we hope they might not come…)
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I asked Darling Husband for his side of the guest list but he was deployed so he delegated to his mom and sister. They sent me the info and I ran it all by him to make sure it included everyone he (and they) wanted and to make sure his friends that his mom and sis didn’t know were on there. He actually didn’t really care who was invited when it came to his family because they are not really tight-knit and less than 30% of his side of the guest list attended anyway (couldn’t afford to travel to the wedding). If you are comfortable working on it with him mom since he doesn’t really care, I would go that route and then make sure he’s cool with who’s on the list.
Post # 7
@MsGinkgo: Maybe you should have a phonecall with FH and his mom to get the addresses of the family members?
Post # 8
@prisigtr: I’m fine with it, problem is HE isn’t. He says he wants to take care of it himself but he won’t actually do it and gets annoyed when I ask him about it. (i think he’s upset that my side is larger but my family outnumbers his 2 to 1…i can’t change that)
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
@MsGinkgo: MY Fiance didn’t seem to understand why I needed addresses “so early”, so he thought i was being ridiculous.
I created an account on Postable, and emailed (or sent through Facebook) everyone I needed. I also got his sisters involved.
By the time he was ready to give me the addresses, I already had them.
I say, go around him. In a nice way.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Haha, yeah, my family is larger too..it was literally 11 guests that were his out of 75 people that showed (wow, so that’s really 15%). If he is going to be that stubborn about it, I would tell him that he is responsible for sending out the Save-The-Date Cards to his side of the guest list and that you will do your side. If they don’t get sent, that’s on him. Let him know what the deadlines are for Save-The-Date Cards and invitations and the reason why it is important to get them out by a certain time. Oy, I’m getting frustrated for you!
Oh, and congrats on your wedding date! I was married same day this year! 😀