Post # 1
So I am having a lot of problems at work which are causing me MAJOR stress. I wound up in the hospital Monday night with breathing difficulties because of it.
It was recommended that I take stress leave for a while. I feel like I should, just to get my thoughts back together, but my SO doesn’t support the idea. He thinks I should just buck up and deal. So it’s incredibly difficult for me to actually take the leave because of this.
What should I do bees?
Post # 3
@beecurse: you should take the stress leave.
Unfortunately, people who haven’t had any kind of anxiety, depression, major stress event sometimes don’t understand what is happening to you and why you feel the way you do. Explain to him that your doctor recommended this and let him know that you don’t want to end up back on the hospital. Although he may not understand, I hope that after some explanation he can at least support your decision.
Post # 4
Your SO doesn’t quite understand how much stress and anxiety can impact us, we can’t just ‘suck up and deal’ like SO many people who haven’t suffered from anxiety and depression say. Take the stress leave.
Post # 5
Take the leave. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
Post # 6
Does anyone have any advice on how I can approach him about it with it sounding like I’m trying to beg for him to understand?
To a degree, he gets it. He knows it’s a real thing. He just is not in support of taking time off to heal. He has never faced these sorts of issues, so he doesn’t understand why two sick days and a massage won’t make it better.
Post # 7
@beecurse: I’m sorry I won’t be much help, I am trying to make my parents and sister understand my illness. They think keeping doing things and doing work every now and then will make it all go away. If your SO is into research, perhaps print articles and send him links to information on stress breakdowns, and how much work stress can impact you physically and mentally.
Post # 8
I’d take the leave! There’s nothing wrong with taking time to re-coup and heal.
Post # 9
@beecurse: I would honestly just tell him. I am all for making a decision together, but when it comes to your health, there is no compromise. I would say, “Honey, I will be taking a few days off from work to relax, and I hope that you will help support my decision to become healthier.”
I have GAD, and while I have never had to take a day off because of it or becuase I was too stressed out with work, you bet I would if I felt the way you did, and I would do it whether my husband understood or cared or not.
Post # 10
Take the break, and maybe use it as an opportunity to take a mini-break from your SO as well.
If he’s not going to be understanding of this, then he’s only going to add to the stress (and make things worse!) In the end this is your choice and he shouldn’t really have any weight on the desicion at all.
If the way he’s handling your emotions causes you more stress, he needs to address it or you need to re-evaluate your relationship. :/
Good luck OP – feel better!
Post # 11
I have the appointment later today to discuss what the course of action will be.
I talked to SO and told him how I feel. I told him I just need away from that place for a while, with everything that has happened there in the past few months, and I just need to take time off to re-group. I told him that it’s something I have to do to take care of me because the amount of stress is crushing me, and it’s mostly inflicted by that place. He was very understanding and listened to what I had to say.
I am not going to lie, I don’t think he understands it, but I think he is behind me now. I never knew a work place could be so toxic. I know there is a bigger issue here that a few weeks away aren’t going to take care of, but I am hoping this can be a start. My body is sending me messages that I need to take time to care for myself, and I am going to do just that. The last 4 months at my work have been a slow downhill spiral, the last 2 months being my personal cap, which finally manifested itself Monday night.