Having trouble at work, SO not supportive

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
6447 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@beecurse:  you should take the stress leave.

Unfortunately, people who haven’t had any kind of anxiety, depression, major stress event sometimes don’t understand what is happening to you and why you feel the way you do. Explain to him that your doctor recommended this and let him know that you don’t want to end up back on the hospital. Although he may not understand, I hope that after some explanation he can at least support your decision.

Post # 4
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Your SO doesn’t quite understand how much stress and anxiety can impact us, we can’t just ‘suck up and deal’ like SO many people who haven’t suffered from anxiety and depression say. Take the stress leave.

Post # 5
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Take the leave. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.

Post # 7
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@beecurse:  I’m sorry I won’t be much help, I am trying to make my parents and sister understand my illness. They think keeping doing things and doing work every now and then will make it all go away. If your SO is into research, perhaps print articles and send him links to information on stress breakdowns, and how much work stress can impact you physically and mentally.

Post # 8
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d take the leave! There’s nothing wrong with taking time to re-coup and heal.

Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@beecurse: I would honestly just tell him. I am all for making a decision together, but when it comes to your health, there is no compromise. I would say, “Honey, I will be taking a few days off from work to relax, and I hope that you will help support my decision to become healthier.”

I have GAD, and while I have never had to take a day off because of it or becuase I was too stressed out with work, you bet I would if I felt the way you did, and I would do it whether my husband understood or cared or not.

Post # 10
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Take the break, and maybe use it as an opportunity to take a mini-break from your SO as well.

If he’s not going to be understanding of this, then he’s only going to add to the stress (and make things worse!) In the end this is your choice and he shouldn’t really have any weight on the desicion at all.

If the way he’s handling your emotions causes you more stress, he needs to address it or you need to re-evaluate your relationship. :/

Good luck OP – feel better!

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