- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
This is my second wedding and i am DEFINITELY changing the lineup this time around… but how do i go about that without hurting people’s feelings? Maid of honor from last time -H- is my favorite cousin and she assumes she’ll be Maid/Matron of Honor this time too, but we just arent as close now as we were then.
The girl i would like to have as my matron of honor -M- has been a tried and true best friend and i call her my sister, her son is my nephew, and my mother even calls her her second daughter. BUT i worry that she wont have enough time to devote to my wedding because she has a 3 month old son and i am NOT bridezilla.. yes, its my day, but not for the next year.
My other close friend -B- assumes she’ll be maid of honor because i told her a about a year ago that someday she’d be my Maid/Matron of Honor… She is my daughter’s godmother, she was one of the only people that was there for me when i was pregnant, a very trusted confidant and i feel like she has alot of the qualities that i want to surround myself with.. but lately i never see her or hear from her unless its convienient for her and it makes ME feel like crap if i cant see her when SHE is free. and she wont have time OR money to devote to the wedding.
And then i have several girls who i cant pick from to be my last bridesmaid. I can pick -S- who is another cousin that -H- and i were literally attached to at the hip as kids, but we’ve grown apart because she is 3 years younger than me and she is still in high school.
There is -K- who is a cousin, i am her son’s godmother, she will help me do anything and EVERYTHING that i ask for, but she will criticize everything and i can really only spend a few hours with her at a time because of the lifestyle she leads and her terrible parenting. But i feel like i have to put her in because we have always been close and i am using her son as my ring bearer.
Then -FSIL- who i love, but i dont really know because they rarely spend time with the family, not that i dont beg her to come out with me, she just has her little niche and thats fine, but yet again i feel like i need to include her because she is married to my fiance’s brother and he is in the bridal party.
and FINALLY! (I Know you’re tired of reading) I have -A- who has pretty much been my mentor and i have looked up to her for almost everything since i was 13 years old… but because she is almost 4 years older, once she went to college we grew apart and we are growing closer and i want her to know that she is important to me
Fiance has 4 boys in mind.. and thats it for now, he seems pretty set on it. Bridesmaid or Best Man is 6’2 and lanky, Groomsmen1 is 6′ and Lanky, Groomsmen2 is 5’10 with plenty of cushin’, and Groomsmen3 is 5’7 and stocky.
H- 5’1, petite
M- 5’4, curvy
B- 6’1, unfair thinny
S- 5’8, thin
K- 5’6, curvy
FSIL- 5’7, perfect. (unfair)
A- 5’9, thinny
OK SO. there you go. i just want advice on who you would put in your wedding, who you would match up with who and what other special tasks or titles i could out if i cant fit them in the wedding.