Post # 1
Many years ago, on a bottle (or two) of very good red, My best friend and I amused ourselves by observing all the women we knew who had recently became engaged and had come down with what we called…. ‘White dress fever.’. AKA… the obsessive and often all consuming bid to shrink their bodies in record time so they could fit into their dream wedding dress.
You know the sort ladies…within weeks of their announcement of engagement these women are all suddenly transformed from binge drinking junkfood loving party animals whos version exercise was hunting for the next hot dress and heels to hit the clubs with while living of a diet of kebabs, chocolate, redbull, and lovely creamy lattes; to health and excersise freiks.
It is almost as if by magic that their shiny rocks on their left hand suddenly transmits shockwaves to their brains and erases all memory of the slothful and indulgent lifestyles that they once led. The overpowering call of the white dress beckons these ladies to book themselves into health spas, feverishly take excersise classes, starve themselves on fad diets, and go on a mission to burn out as many treadmills and cross trainers they can…
That night, we promised (pinky swear so its legit) that when/if we ever become engaged… we would never, EVER, fall for ‘white dress fever’….. EVER!!! As the great ‘idealists’ we are, we would embrace our bodies for what ever shape they would be in and wear a dress that would transform us as we are… not transform ourselves for the dress…
Well fast forward quite a few years, a couple of kids later, middle age spread and a sugar addiciton to boot… My partner and I decided to finally make an honest woman of me on christmas day 2012!
But… have a confession to make… I have relented. I joined a gym this week.. and yes.. Its all in a bit to look hot in my dress!
Post # 3
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best in your wedding dress! I’ve always been a gym nut, but I’ve definitely stepped it up in the last few months. You’re going to look at your wedding pics for the rest of your life, why not look like the best possible you?!
Post # 4
I don’t mind women who want to look their best on their wedding day and are healthy about their eating and exercise habits, but I think some women take it too far. I have a friend who was never overweight. She liked eating fast food on occasion and having a couple drinks on the weekend. Well now that she is getting married, she cut all that out. She used to love Mexican food, and now when we go out to our favorite Mexican place, all she gets is a side salad. And when it was her birthday, I offered to buy her a drink, and she turned me down. She said she was giving up all alcohol because of the calories. I told her she could get a skinny margarita, but she said no. I was actually pretty shocked, since she loves margaritas!
My point is, I think there are extremes in every situation. It’s best to eat healthy and exercise, but don’t starve yourself or deny yourself all little treats.
Post # 5
This is definitely a thing. I think it’s great that brides want to look good on their wedding day but I also think these are the sort of people (Men do it too!) who as soon as they are married totally fall off the wagon and gain silly amounts of weight.
It’s unhealthy, you should want to look and feel your best all the time. You only have one body and one chance to be the best you can be!
Post # 6
There is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight before your wedding! For starters – white isn’t a slimming color like black. Also you are going to have your photo taken a million times that day and have people staring at you a lot. Why would you not want to look your absolute best on your big day??
I was a gym rat before my wedding – but I didn’t do too well eating. Well now I cranked up my workouts and dialed in my eating. The result? My dress had to be taken down two sizes and I was actually told to stop losing by my seamstress! Once the wedding is over I plan to keep on going. I want to slim down my thighs and lose another 10 pounds.
Post # 7
I stuck to my work outs a bit better when I got engaged. But I have to say, I have stepped out my work out routine after the wedding. I work out much harder now and more frequently than I did before.
Post # 8
wifey2be, that is a hilarious story! Thanks for sharing it . . .
I don’t know how the general population statistics apply to the women on this forum, but the truth is that obesity, diabetes and other obesity-related heath problem statistics for many of the countries that seem to be represented on this website (USA, Great Britian, Australia) are terrible. In fact, all of those countries are in the top five on almost every international chart.
While crash-dieting and unhealthy weight loss schemes are equally unhealthy, it seems that using the fact of your upcoming wedding, a hugely significant event, to propel you into adopting better eatng and exercise habits that will serve you for a lifetime (if you stick with it LOL) is a very positive approach!
@Bichon Frise: of course you know your friend best, but try not to undermine her choices. She may be eating just fine, just avoiding eating after a certain time of day and avoiding empty calories. Different systems work for different people; I know that for me, if I eat healthily for breakfast, lunch and small snacks, and not eat at all after 6 p.m., the fat just starts to burn off so much faster! But I have the same problem – people saying, “oh, don’t you just want one drink?? You could make it a virgin” . . . etc. But there are lots of empty calories in drink mixes, for example. Eating what you need to give you the energy to power through those workouts is critical, but eating and drinking socially just beacuse people want you to makes no sense at all.
Post # 9
I got engaged, joined the gym and then everyone assumed that I wanted to loose weight for the wedding. However, getting engaged coincided with finishing my PhD and I was carrying a bit of a ‘thesis baby’ I was desperate to get rid off again so I would have joined a gym anyway! I have to admit to some grumpy reactions to people saying ‘wow, you’ve lost weight! you must be shedding for the wedding!’ No, I’m doing it for me, not for the pretty pictures!
Post # 10
I guess I’m lucky in that I don’t put on weight that easily…however I also don’t lose it easily either. I’ve been a size 8 for at least 4 years now….and considering I’m late 30s, I’m happy with my body.
I had a GF a while ago….she was 27, gorgeous girl, slim, ginormous natural rack…just had a perfect body but horrible eating habits. I constantly warned her about how most women I knew had a metabolism slowdown around 26-28.
She was a natural size 6…bought a size 2 for her first wedding…which didn’t happen but I told her she was NUTS to get a dress that small.
She got engaged again and was for a year before they got married. She put on so much weight in that year (she was a heavy drinker) that she freaked out b/c she had bought another dress WAY too small for her….it was a size 6 and she was a good size 14. I honestly didn’t recognize her when I saw her.
She starved herself the 2 months prior to the wedding….lost some weight but her dress looked horrible on her. She wound up getting a separate reception dress so she could be comfortable.
And nothing wrong w/joining a gym….you might decide to keep it up after the wedding….plus working out gives you “happy” endorphins which helps ease wedding planning stress 🙂
Post # 11
Nothing wrong with wanting to look your best. Your wedding day is a perfect motivator to get healthier and lose weight. I didn’t reach all my fitness goals in time for my wedding, but I looked better than the day I got engaged.
Besides…I’d rather establish an active lifestyle before I marry so I don’t end just letting myself go like you see a lot of people do after they marry and have kids. You will look better, feel better and live longer, why wouldn’t you want that?!
Post # 12
Totally guilty. That being said I’m already fairly healthy, and had a gym membership before I was engaged, so the process just got amped up after the ring. And two, I DO NOT support anyone buying a gown too small to “force myself to lose weight”. That is SO stupid, and asking for a dresstastrophe.
I got the call that my size 8, perfect fit, wedding dress came in just yesterday, and if I lose some weight, great, but I’m not thinking it’s going to really change my alterations much! (I hope!)
Post # 13
And two, I DO NOT support anyone buying a gown too small to “force myself to lose weight”. That is SO stupid, and asking for a dresstastrophe.
I agree. Wedding planning is stressful enough, you don’t need to add to it by stressing over trying to fit into your dress. My wedding dress was actually too big for me when I bought it(it was discontinued and they no longer had it in my size). I knew I was gonna have to get it taken in to fit me perfectly and it took a lot of stress off my shoulders. Even if I didn’t meet my fitness goals…I was still gonna fit into my dress. Much easier to take a dress in than to let one out. Much better to have a “hey, let’s see how much weight I can lose before the wedding” attitude vs “OMG I have to lose 20 lbs or I simply won’t fit into my dress”.
Post # 15
I completely understand! Your pictures will last forever so you might as well look good, right? I lost 20 lbs over the course of 3 years and just six months of living with my fiance and I am up 7 lbs while he is losing weight. I finally put my food down on his unhealthy habits when the scale kept on going up.
Post # 16
haha! This is me! And I totally watch say yes to the dress 5 days a week on the treadmill!