Post # 1
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have recently had a few talks about our desired timeframe for getting “officially engaged”. Then, last night, a bit out of the blue, he asked:
Him: What kind of ring would you like?
Me: Ring? Like…a wedding ring? (don’t know why I was being so weird!)
Him: Yes. How does that work?
Me: Well, I suppose we’d both get wedding rings when we get married and then…um…well, engagement ring…is optional… (haha, again, why was I being weird!?)
Him: Engagement ring…Definitely! What kind would you like? Would you like a diamond? What style do you like? (maybe not his exact words since I could barely hear him over my heart pounding…)
So I told him that I do kinda know what I like style-wise since I see a lot of jewelry all the time (for work) and then I told him that the ring didn’t need to be a diamond and I talked a little about moissanite (which I loooove!) and blue sapphire (which I also looooove!).
Then someone came and interrupted our conversation – argh! 🙂
When I went home, I thought…should I send him a link to my Pinterest board? Should I send him a link to my MoissaniteCo wishlist? Should I just wait until he brings it up again?
Would it be pushy if I sent him a little e-mail showing him 2-3 examples of what I like with a little note like, “Just some ideas for when the time comes” or something like that?
What do you all think?
Post # 3
I think it’s a good idea to send him a FEW links. Don’t go overboard and overwhelm him, but give him an idea of what you like
Post # 4
It wouldn’t be pushy at all, he’s already asked what you’d like. Showing him your preferences guarantees you’ll get something you really love. Congrats, btw.
Post # 5
Yes, send him a few links/pics. But do not send him links to your pinterest/moissyco wishlists. This might scare him a little to know you have been looking as much as you have. If you really need to share the pics…share them with us at the hive, lol!
Post # 6
Here’s some advice from my grandmother (the exact tone she said it to me) “You only get one shot at this so be specific, practical, and get what you want. You don’t want to be stuck with a ring you still barely like 50 years later”.
What I did was figure out budget. My Fiance give me his ball park budget (and then blew it, but that is another story) and the stone. I knew I wanted a diamond (he did too) or a gemstone that did not look like a diamond. He wanted diamond. It’s his gift, so a diamond it was.
Then I sent him a 1/2 page email (my grandmother’s limit) stating my preference– the store to buy from, the setting I liked, the shapes I liked, the size range I felt comfortable in, the specs of the diamond I felt were the best value, and my view on metals. I included 2 pictures of sample rings and let him do his thing.
Every guy who I have talked to wants guidance, but wants to be able to say they picked the ring. So I picked the setting style, he picked the metal. He picked which shape of stone from the options I gave him and I picked the specs (other than clarity– he upgraded me). He picked the size. That way he can say he picked the e-ring.
PM me if you want to see my email to give you an idea of how to keep it short and get exactly what you want.
Post # 7
when I went through this with my then Boyfriend or Best Friend, I had a very similar conversation with him and I got all weird for whatever reason and didn’t say much (you’d think I’d be more smooth as I’m in my 30’s – but alas I’m not). Over the next couple of days, I found a few pictures of things I liked online and then pasted them in a word document with my ring size and a few comments about things that I definitely did not want (like baguettes). I then handed it to him and said something like “here – you wanted some ideas. what do you want for dinner?”. I did’t want to make a big deal out of it. After that the ball was in his court. I didn’t really want something very grand or specific so I just trusted him to make the final selection.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Before you send him any links or photos, make sure you try on styles in person. What you think looks pretty on someone else’s hand or in a photo may be all wrong for you once you put it on your finger. Once you’ve tried some things on, send him a link of 3-5 examples of what you like. Guys can get overwhelmed fairly easily, so be gentle with him. LOL You could also send him links to some articles about diamond alternatives if you want to nudge him in that direction.
Post # 9
@lovekiss: I agree with trying a few on then sending hiim a few pictures and links. He does want to know what you’d like, but you definitely don’t want to overwhelm him.
Post # 10
@lovekiss: Trying a few on was the best thing i did! The ones I thought I liked from pictures didn’t really do anything for me when I actually had them on. Dresses work like this as well.
Post # 11
Totally agree with @lovekiss about trying things on. My Boyfriend or Best Friend took me to try different styles on so he could get and idea of what we both liked and has now chosen the final one by himself. He said it really helped him to make up his mind.
@MissPine: do you think you could suggest this to your SO or is it too early for that?
Post # 12
Haha, this is so cute. It reminds me of me and Fiance, cause we havent “officially” become engaged yet. He gave me a “promise” ring (his words, which was really adorable) but we havent got rings yet.
I’ve shown mine a few pictures (but he’s jewelry obsessed) but I wouldnt go overboard with it.
Post # 13
keep it simple, give him 3 links of your top 3!
Post # 14
@Pollywog: Here’s some advice from my grandmother (the exact tone she said it to me) “You only get one shot at this so be specific, practical, and get what you want. You don’t want to be stuck with a ring you still barely like 50 years later”.
This x 1000
Post # 15
how exciting! I would definately make the most of this opportunity! I sent him about 5 links of different rings that I liked, but after I emailed him I spoke to him about the rings. That way he knew what I liked about each of them, but also we talked about budget.
Post # 16
@Pollywog: I like your grandmother!