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What is the etiquette (is there one?) on who pays for the wedding ring(s)?
He buys your wedding ring ... you buy his wedding ring.
Pretty much, anything goes. In todays world everyone has different circumstances, so really it is up to you and what is realistic in your life.
my FI isnt wearing a ring (his job prevents jewellry) so hes paying for my ring technically but in reality its something we're budgeting together
I voted for together, but technically, he bought the engagement ring and I put the wedding rings on my credit card. However, we already live together and share our expenses, so really it's our combined money.
He bought mine. I had just graduated college and had zero money! With him being military, we knew it'd be 13 months before we got married and about 18 months before we got to live together. Separate lives, separate finances, haha
He bought all of mine and I bought his one. Somehow I think I won out, lol. He'd NEVER have let me pay for mine though. He's a gentlemen when it comes to a lot of things, kind of old fashioned in a sweet way. I don't think i've ever opened my own car door in 4 years of dating. Unless it's pouring. He always makes me put my hands down so he can get it for me.
I voted for both of you because that is what Mr.bobby and I are. I see it as only being fair.
I'm not sure what the actually etiquette rules are, but I bought his and he bought mine. It felt more meaningful that way -- like the rings are our gift to each other. Do whatever feels right for you!
i think we are going to go together to buy the ring so i think it will be a combination of both our money
he bought mine, i bought his. his was uber cheap and mine was not. but it equals out (i think) because i've been spending my money on all the small wedding purchases that seem to add up or have me spending more money! (glasses for centerpieces, invitation paper, flip flops for guests, cardstock for programs, paying for our lounge rentals) etc., etc.
the original ring he picked out was so cheap i told him no and made him pick out something more expensive (still cheap) 
You pay for his wedding band; he pays for your's. That's pretty standard, but if you're planning to merge finances after the wedding anyway, then it really doesn't matter.
I paid for mine, because we bought it while on holiday in Egypt, and I was the one who brought a credit card along that day. I really don't think it matters-- whatever's mine is his, and whatever's his is mine. We're not really keeping score on who pays for what-- it's 'our' money.
You buy each other's rings, just as many have said above.
But, you have to do what's right for you guys.
i bought mine i'm. Although we shopped together and I selected one that he also liked too.
He insisted on buying them all because he likes to buy me diamonds. What can I say, I'm a lucky gal.....and it doesn't hurt that his family owns a jewelry setting business in the diamond district NY :)
I've heard that traditionally, the groom pays for the engagement ring by himself. However, I know a lot of couples who are doing things differently these days. With everyone's financial situation being totally unique, I think you guys should do whatever you're comfortable with. In our case, he bought my engagement ring and wedding ring and I bought his wedding band. I don't even know how much my engagement ring cost--he won't let me see or pay for any of it.
I bought his this past week on Father's Day Sale. :)
I told him what the budget for his ring was. He came with me because he wasn't too confident in my taste or maybe because I pointed him in the right direction for mine and it was helpful. He encouraged me to shop online for cheaper after we saw them in person. He was satisfied with his choice though. And I wasn't a stickler, I went $100 over budget because I love him....and kept telling him to pick what he liked. I'm paying for most of the wedding stuff. I won't ask how much my ring cost and he almost told me but i told him, let's just keep it a mystery. If it's cheap, i'll be disappointed...if it's expensive, I'll be stressed about his spending habits. If it's just about right, I'll analyze my analysis to pieces. Either way, he loses if I find out how much mine costs. I know, I have such a double standard!!
I said together, but really, I'm paying for both rings b/c he's in grad school. I guess you could say it's "our" money once we're actually married.
It really is a matter of preference (wow, I think I am saying that a lot lately)... Anyway, the Mr. and I will be paying for the rings together. It is easier for us that way.
He buys your wedding band, and you buy his wedding band. All people are different... so anything goes, but this is the way it is "supposed" to be. :)
He bought both of the wedding rings. It was just the way we divided up the wedding budget. I think normally, as a lot of people stated, you guys his and he buys yours.
DH bought my E-ring and wedding band(s). I bought his wedding band. But, this was just how we did it - everyone's situation is different. I think you should just talk about it with FI and decide what is most economically sensible for you two. It can be one of your first "finance discussions"!
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The fi and I live together and have a joint bank account...so I like to think that we share most of the costs...although majority of our income is his.
But technically we planned on buying each others...and buying each other a wedding gift (watch for him right hand ring for me)
My FI bought my engagement ring, but we bought the wedding bands together. However, I paid for my wedding dress myself (I didn't want him to split the cost of it). So I think it worked out pretty well. You just need to do what works for you.
I think ettiquete says you pay for each other's bands (or sometimes your families foot the bill).
Seaking of (mdarrah), my mom just mentioned how she would want to pay for the wedding rings - at least for his, but if he's OK with it, for both the rings. i feel a little weird about this...should I? Or, just take whatever I can and save money for other things?...hm...
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He was willing to buy both but I insisted on buying his. He bought mine. Our jeweler said there is no etiquette, just what feels best to each individual couple.
We didn't have an engagement ring (or a groom!). She is giving me a wedding ring that was her grandmother's. I bought one for her on eBay.
I bought both of ours, which totaled about $450, much less than my engagement ring. Plus when I wrecked our truck he paid for the parts to fix it so he said that makes us even 
I believe strict old-fashioned etiquette is that the groom's family pays for the wedding rings. But, we just paid for ours ourselves. I knew I didn't want a plain wedding band, and didn't know how to tell my in-laws that what I wanted was going to be much more expensive than a traditional gold band. Plus, I know his mom had already let him borrow some money for my engagement ring, which was expensive enough already! So, we just budgeted together - I believe I bought both of them, but I make more money than my FI and he helped pay down my credit card bill after I bought them.
I bought his, he bought mine. :) We don't have anything set up as "our" money yet. Mine cost more than his so I bought him running shoes to make up the difference, and I'll probably buy him a wedding present worth what my ERing cost (it wasn't the "normal" 2 month salary amount). :)
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We bought ours together. We actually opened a joint credit card (our first one!) and paid for them with that. We'll both be paying down the bill together.
My husband bought my E-ring before we even had money set aside in the wedding fund, and we each bought our own bands from our own income during our engagement. I just didn't feel right about making him pay for another expensive ring, especially when we're very keen on living within our means as a couple. Even though we keep our money separate, it affects what financial and personal goals we can achieve as a couple if one of us is paying off expensive debt.
Technically, neither of us paid for my engagement ring--when I found out that he bought it on his credit card I was disappointed because of our above stated commitment to planning big purchases. When we were generously gift a large sum from his grandparents, we paid off the ring before spending it anywhere else.
I like the idea that each of you is buying the wedding band for the other (that's what we did) since it's a gift you're giving and a vow you're making to each other.
We made our rings for each other, so it was a "together" purchase.
I think the groom should by the brides wedding band and the bride should by the grooms band. Or they should split the bill in half and each pay half of both rings. That's assuming the couple doesn't have joint accounts/credit cards with each other already.
I thought the norm is that the groom bought all of bride's and the bride buys his.
we bought each other's ring and keep them as a surprise for our wedding day :)
This was one that I felt pretty strongly about for our big day. I bought his, he bought mine, I figure they represent a gift and promise to each other so I didn't feel right having our folks paying for them out of the main wedding budget.
My FI was "old-fashioned" and he wanted to pay for my wedding band all on his own...which he did, except for about $500. I bought and paid for his wedding band on my own...seemed fitting.
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