HE bought the engagement ring; WHO buys the wedding ring(s)? Together? Me? Him?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What is the etiquette (is there one?) on who pays for the wedding ring(s)?
    Groom-to-be (Let him pay for it all!) : (9 votes)
    6 %
    Bride-to-be (He paid for the E-ring; only fair I pay for the wedding bands) : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Together (We are "one" now; we pay for them with our $) : (116 votes)
    79 %
    Other (Please explain) : (17 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    2365 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    He buys your wedding ring … you buy his wedding ring.

    Pretty much, anything goes. In todays world everyone has different circumstances, so really it is up to you and what is realistic in your life. 

    Post # 4
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    my FI isnt wearing a ring (his job prevents jewellry) so hes paying for my ring technically but in reality its something we’re budgeting together

     

    Post # 5
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    36 posts
    Newbee

    I voted for together, but technically, he bought the engagement ring and I put the wedding rings on my credit card.  However, we already live together and share our expenses, so really it’s our combined money.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    He bought mine. I had just graduated college and had zero money! With him being military, we knew it’d be 13 months before we got married and about 18 months before we got to live together. Separate lives, separate finances, haha

    He bought all of mine and I bought his one. Somehow I think I won out, lol. He’d NEVER have let me pay for mine though. He’s a gentlemen when it comes to a lot of things, kind of old fashioned in a sweet way. I don’t think i’ve ever opened my own car door in 4 years of dating. Unless it’s pouring. He always makes me put my hands down so he can get it for me. 

    Post # 7
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    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted for both of you because that is what Mr.bobby and I are. I see it as only being fair.

    Post # 8
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    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m not sure what the actually etiquette rules are, but I bought his and he bought mine.  It felt more meaningful that way — like the rings are our gift to each other.  Do whatever feels right for you!

    Post # 9
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    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    i think we are going to go together to buy the ring so i think it will be a combination of both our money

    Post # 10
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    he bought mine, i bought his. his was uber cheap and mine was not. but it equals out (i think) because i’ve been spending my money on all the small wedding purchases that seem to add up or have me spending more money! (glasses for centerpieces, invitation paper, flip flops for guests, cardstock for programs, paying for our lounge rentals) etc., etc.

    the original ring he picked out was so cheap i told him no and made him pick out something more expensive (still cheap)

    Post # 11
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    You pay for his wedding band; he pays for your’s. That’s pretty standard, but if you’re planning to merge finances after the wedding anyway, then it really doesn’t matter.

    Post # 12
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    1045 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008

    I paid for mine, because we bought it while on holiday in Egypt, and I was the one who brought a credit card along that day.  I really don’t think it matters– whatever’s mine is his, and whatever’s his is mine.  We’re not really keeping score on who pays for what– it’s ‘our’ money.

    Post # 13
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    You buy each other’s rings, just as many have said above.

    But, you have to do what’s right for you guys. 

    Post # 14
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    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    i bought mine i’m.  Although we shopped together and I selected one that he also liked too.

    I’m with jhphi’s thought; whatever mine is his and vice versa  🙂

    Post # 15
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    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    He insisted on buying them all because he likes to buy me diamonds.  What can I say, I’m a lucky gal…..and it doesn’t hurt that his family owns a jewelry setting business in the diamond district NY 🙂

    Post # 16
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    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve heard that traditionally, the groom pays for the engagement ring by himself.  However, I know a lot of couples who are doing things differently these days.  With everyone’s financial situation being totally unique, I think you guys should do whatever you’re comfortable with.  In our case, he bought my engagement ring and wedding ring and I bought his wedding band.  I don’t even know how much my engagement ring cost–he won’t let me see or pay for any of it.

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