Post # 1
My bf and I went engaging ring shopping 3 months ago. After looking for awhile, I found the ring that I kept going back to try on….this was the one! He bought the ring about a week later, and it came back about 2 months ago from getting resized.
My bf and I are both a mix of traditional and non-traditional when it comes to this whole process. I was involved in picking out the ring, yet he still wants to surprise me with an actual proposal, which is sweet. But….it’s been such torture waiting for him to propose now that I know he has a ring. It’s like this: the decision to get married was a joint decision, but the decision on when to actually officially get engaged is completely in his hands. My traditional and non-traditional sides fight each other on this point, lol.
Any advice? Or anyone else waiting for a proposal? Or had to wait for a proposal that you knew was coming but didn’t know when?
Anyways, I love my ring. It is a 1 1/4 ct. tw. halo with a radiant cut center stone and also smaller stones down the sides of the band. It is so sparkly. I can’t wait till I can wear it. (-:
Post # 3
@SSSO: Ah yes. Many of us waiting bees are in the same boat.
I am fairly certain that my bf has chosen the ring, but do not know if it is purchased yet. That said: we did come to the decision as a couple. I don’t like that I now must wait for him to present the ring. Sigh. My timeline set by SO says before the en of summer.. We shall see.
My advice: keep calm and paint your nails! And chat with the hive 😉
Post # 4
My FI and I chose my ring together as well. I knew that it was purchased and thankfully it was burning a hole in his pocket so the same day he got it…he proposed. It was a long couple of weeks waiting for that ring though – let me tell ya! 🙂
Post # 5
I like that idea of painting my nails….shopping could be a good diversion too lol. I never knew how many people were in the same boat till I started reading on here. Seriously torture to wait! It doesn’t help that there’s the added stress and excitement of us closing on a house in a couple weeks – big things are changing in our lives. Exciting but also stressful. I love SO and have been trying not to put pressure on him. I will only be able to call him my boyfriend a little while longer, and I know I should just enjoy where we’re at right now.
@scarlet_letter: SO has given me a timeline of by the end of the summer too! I hope we both don’t have it drag till the VERY end of the summer.
@MsMindle: Omgosh, I wish my bf would have been that quick, but really any amount of time waiting when you know he already has the ring is brutal!
Post # 6
I was in that exact same spot. Went ring shopping in late February, bought the ring in April, and I was DYING. I kept myself busy with working out, buying waterproof mascara, keeping my nails neat and checking out recently purchased engagement rings on Blue Nile. Oh, and stalking Weddingbee! He finally proposed last week!
You’ll survive! And let us know when you finally get engaged so we can see your ring!
Post # 7
I was in your same boat until last week. Me and my fiancé went ring shopping together after decidingtogether that we are ready to get married. After I picked out the exact ring I wanted I had to wait for about 4 months for him to pop the question. For about 2 months I knew the ring was in his possession. It was a bit of a wait but I am glad because it built anticipation and gave him time to pick the perfect moment. He did it while we were walking down the beach together on our Florida vacation. I wouldn’t have had it any other way!
Post # 8
I know how you feel! Bf bought the ring about a week ago… and promptly hid it (he knows me too well). He’s having a lot of fun teasing me and making me wait, lol. He claims that since he only gets to do this once, he wants to enjoy it. I hope he doesn’t make me wait too much longer, this is driving me nuts!
Post # 9
@SSSO: i am right with ya!!! I am waiting for mine too!!
Post # 10
I’m in much the same situation and feel the same about the decision. I’m not sure I like that the timing of engagement is totally in his hands. It doesn’t feel right when deciding to get married is done by the both of us together. But he also has the responsibility of paying for the ring, so I guess that’s fair.
I find it hard knowing so much and still wanting a surprise. I’m trying not to talk about it or be on the lookout for clues, because I don’t want to accidently find out any other details that might ruin the surprise. Like when he left an email open saying my ring has finished being made. Fingers in my ears!
Good luck with the wait!
Post # 11
@graciej: Dang, I feel EXACTLY the same way. It doesn’t feel right that he chooses the timing of the proposal, when it’s a joint decision to get married. Yeah, he bought the ring, so there’s that. And I guess I’m also bowing to tradition. I’m sure I’ll be fine once we are actually engaged, but this whole situation has changed my views on engagement. I had no idea it would feel this way. HOWEVER, I am glad I got to choose my ring, so I guess all I can say is oh well.
Good luck with the wait to you too!!!
Post # 12
Once I asked my SO if I get any say about when we get engaged. He said no, I get a say in the wedding, but the engagement is his thing. I think he feels some pressure being the man that he has to do it himself and make it perfect. It’s very sweet that they want to get it right for us. I think once the wait is over I’ll be glad I got a surprise and the experience of being asked. Although I don’t expect anything fancy, I guess I’m a bit traditional in wanting “the proposal”. Can’t have it all. If I want the fairytale, I can’t really be involved in planning it too!
Post # 13
@SSSO After he proposes, you are going to be SO HAPPY that you didn’t have a say in when he does it. I chose my ring, pushed a few not so subtle hints that I wanted it, and knew when my FI bought it (granted, he didn’t know I knew). However, I still knew the proposal was coming and was a nervous wreck the entire MONTH AND A HALF I knew. Longest time of my life. But when it was said and done, I was so happy I waited and it was a surprise. It makes it so much more memorable and with a ring that you picked out! Good luck with your nerves and believe me and everyone else, it’s worth it!