(Closed) He can be anything but the groom!

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No but I am glad to see there are more of us out there! lol…Fi is a big time gamer!!!  Maybe…nope, I’m stumped!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

FI has several of these friends, some of whom he has already met in person. How exciting that he’ll be able to be at the wedding! Maybe you could ask him to do something like announce your first dance together…? I don’t know… We are having such a small wedding that we don’t have a lot of “extra” people participating!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, that is a tough one!

What about something similar to an usher but at a different point in your celebration? Maybe he could help people find their table, help pass out favors, dedicate a (pre-approved by you) so to the two of you?

Let us know what you decide to do 🙂

Also, I think it is great of you to let him be included since it is clearly so important to your man!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

maybe he would be happy being in charge of “doing something” like running a homemade photo booth for the guest book.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What about bringing up the gifts?  Is that person already chosen too? 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I meant the during the ceremony – not your wedding gifts, lol. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think the Eucharistic ministers need to be (although I’d check with the Church just in case), but I was referring to the people that bring up the offerings.  I don’t think this is a regional thing, since I’ve seen it done all over the country.

Oh, here’s something:

“<strong class=”pblue”>Eucharistic ministers

Eucharistic ministers distribute communion to the assembly. Ask the priest or deacon who will assist at your wedding whether you may invite friends or family to serve as eucharistic ministers. If the assembly is small, the presider usually fills this role himself. Eucharistic ministers must be baptized and confirmed in the Catholic Church.

Gift bearers

In a wedding Mass, the gift bearers bring bread and wine to the priest at the beginning of the Liturgy of the Eucharist. Generally, two people present the gifts at the altar; however, sometimes a whole family (including children) will serve as gift bearers.”

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

If you and your FH are comfortable making him a groomsmen, go with that. I would not recommend making him part of a Catholic ceremony, if he is not Catholic. Not only will you get some backlash from your priest, he might also feel uncomfortable.

Another option would be to ask him to make a toast. We actually had 6 people give toasts (not all at once but in two groups of three before and after dinner). Not everyone was in the wedding party.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

first, I’m curious about your use of the term “gaming widow” – do explain.

secondly, i think having him give a toast is a great idea. otherwise, maybe put a shout out of appreciation to him in your programs or something?

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

Do you not want to go down the usher route because you want to make his role more special or unique?

Are you having candle lighters?  Maybe he could do that….

Or, is there someone he could escort down the aisle?

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

gaming widow, LOL.

Sometimes I get the “mmmhmmm…mmmhmmm” while we’re on the phone, to which I go, “are you playing football with your friends?”

Guilty as charged =]

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Haha. Gaming Widow. That’s great. I never thought of it that way before, and I am glad there are more of us out there. I’m glad you go it figured out!

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