- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Well, I told you that my FSIL’s boyfriend asked FI’s uncle (FFIL) if he could buy her a ring. Well, he took her out this past Friday and proposed to her. She didn’t know it was going to happen that night. They went out to eat, then to a movie. Then on their way home, he pulled off onto a old road. There’s an “old” wooden bridge. They walked acrossed it. The lights on the bridge were on, and he got down on one knee and proposed to her! It’s such a romantic place! And Beautiful!
He dropped my FSIL off, and went home. She walked into the house, and her uncle started crying when she showed him the ring. She said that he said feels like they don’t have no kids anymore. Her brother and I are getting married in 2 weeks, and she’s started college & is engaged now. He feels like he’s losing his little girl.
Well, a couple hours later her aunt (FMIL) got home from work. She told her that she needed to show her something, and held out her hand. And I guess that her aunt started drilling her questions like “Did you know about this? Did you pick this ring out? Is this why you went out tonight? It seems like he was quick, that as soon as you turned 18, he got a ring!” My FSIL said that the only thing she said that was remotely like ‘congrats’ was “Well it’s a pretty ring, but I don’t like it one bit.” I reckon her aunt left! And then her uncle ran out & hopped in his truck and went after her. He brought her back home, and she slept on the couch.
FSIL cried all night that night. And woke up crying the next morning. She said that her aunt is not even talking to her. FI and I have tried talking to her. We think that their aunt is acting like a “badass” because really she’s hurt. She doesn’t want to see her “little girl” and “little boy” grow up. And they are.
FI told me last night that his aunt called on her lunch break, pretty much just wanting to know what he thought about it. He said that he told her that he is happy for the both of them. He said “You know that boy will do anything she says. And she wants to wait until she’s out of college. He didn’t buy that ring so they can be stupid. He bought that ring as a commitment that he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. No matter how long it takes. I know exactly how he feels because that’s how I feel with Amanda. That’s why I bought her a ring. They aren’t going to do something stupid. She has a good head on her shoulders.”
He said that after he told her what he thought, she said “Okay. I gotta go. Bye.” and hung up real quick. I’m really hating this for FSIL. She wants her aunts support, and happiness (even if it hurts). Even if her aunt apologizes, she’ll never get that day back when she told them the news.
Could you imagine what it would have been like if they told her that FSIL was pregnant?! OMG!
But if FMIL isn’t careful….she’ll move out. That’s what happen with FI. They got into it, and he wanted to move out, and told her that she wasn’t keeping him away from me. Then two months later, we got engaged. His aunt acted cold to me when we first started dating. There wasn’t a day that I didn’t come home upset or crying. But we’re better now. We’ve talked and she apologized. She said that she was jealous of me. And that the longer we were together, she seen how he loved/cared for me, and how I returned it. And that she realized that she “wasn’t losing a son, she was gaining a daughter.”
I’m sorry that I’m ranting. I’m just upset for her. But I’ve been down this path with her aunt. I know it will blow over. But I really hate it for my FSIL.