Post # 1
So FI and I had to exchange Christmas gifts early, as we are both travelling away from each other this year to spend Christmas with our respective families. I bought him a really nice leather wallet, but even as I was paying for it I had a feeling he wouldn’t like it. I also bought him a book.
Long story short, he got me a present I LOVED (pearl neckalce) while I got him the wallet – and he was not enthusiastic about it. So I offered to return the wallet (with him with me) and allow him to pick out one he liked better. Problem is – he hated them all! So we left with nothing, and now it looks like I have given him barely anything for Christmas 🙁
I guess I am just bummed, becuase there are TONS of things I know he likes, but they are all out of my price range. I can only afford to spend $50 becuase I am still a student, whereas he has his full career, so money isn’t as big of a concern for him.
So now I am stumped as to what to get him, and feeling a little bummed that I couldn’t get him somthing he liked. This is the first time this has happened for us – it’s not a fun feeling :S
Post # 3
What about a Diesel watch? They are relatively inexpensive and it’s kind of like jewelry for a guy. They aren’t that expensive either and you can find some pretty hip styles.
Post # 4
@ Mrs. DG – he definitely needs a watch. If I can find a Diesel one for $50 or less in Canada, I’m game. Thanks for the suggestion.
Post # 5
Or what about an IOU for when he does find a wallet he likes? And you can also do something nice as a gift, like make a nice dinner and set up a romantic night for the two of you, or take him out to a nice wine bar or something. My FI tends to like “event” type presents–like tickets to something or going somewhere–better than actual physical presents, unless it’s something that he really needs/wants.
Post # 6
I don’t see why you should have to get him anything else. He knows you don’t have $$ like that this year. I would think he would just be happy with whatever you got him? My FI and I are not doing expensive gifts at all this year. There’s no need to spend tons of $ on each other when it could be going to something else. I just don’t think this is the time(if you really can’t afford it) to go broke trying to get someone something who should love you, even if you can only afford a gift from the dollar store! That’s right the dollar store! lol Christmas is about so much more. I’m really not saying this in a snarky or bitchy way, I just think what you got him should be good enough. Why don’t you try doing a creative gift like making his fav meal or something?
Post # 7
Has he hinted toward anything he might want?
Post # 8
What I did last year from my FH was I made a coupon book. I was really broke last year, so this was about all I could afford. The coupon book had all kinds of different stuff in it, i.e. Back Rub, Make Dinner, Movie Night (he gets to choose the movie!), Foot Rub, Full Body Massage, One Chore (one chore he normally does, he could trade the coupon in and I would do it instead.), also I included a few x-rated coupons too…. heehee.
My FH LOVED it! And he used them all within a few months, lol!
Post # 9
Don’t worry Mimosa, I know you are not being snarky. I completely understand what you are saying and I even agree with you completely! I don’t think that Christmas is about presents at all. I guess I am just feeling bad becuase he got me a nicer gift than I could afford to get him. This could have been remedied if I had spoken to him about setting a cap on spending on his end too (even if he could afford to spend more). I could make him a delicious dinner with wine and dessert – I am a pretty good cook! I certainly don’t want to break the bank.
@ashleyjane – unfortuately, no. Most of the things he tends to like are tech based, like expensive electronics, and there is no way I can affordt those (but he already knows that, and its okay!)
@ otb – I like your suggestion! I always enjoy meaningful gifts like that. I often get up early on the weekend and make FI a fancy breakfast as a surprise – Belgian Waffles, etc. Perhaps I could make a coupon book of delicious breakfasts…yummers!
Post # 10
Not sure what your FI is into, but for the wallets-you can get really nice croc embossed Brahmin wallets on Ebay-they look really expensive but they’re a steal on that site!
Post # 11
You mentioned he likes techie things…you can always get him techia accessories wihtin your budget…there are some docking stations under $50, cases, cords, memory cards, etc.
Post # 12
If all else fails, you could do the coupon book. I have done that in the past too, and it went over very well. And you could pair it up with a gift card to his favorite techy store.
Post # 13
When I was really really REALLY broke one year….my husband got a coupon. It started out as a joke about how poor I was. Cupcake+BJ was the term, lol. He got a fancy coupon (i put some work into it) and a dozen fancy, chocolate frosted cupcakes that I labored over. He was pretty tickled and still says it was the best gift ever, even though it cost me like, $3 of Duncan Hines and frosting mix =]. So, even if you can’t buy him a “real” gift, sometimes just the gift of, er, yourself is enough =]
Post # 14
Sorry to hear that. That is a bummer. I got my FI seasons 5 and 6 of That 70’s Show! They were only $30 and he LOVES that show (we have season 1-4 already) Is there something like that you could get him?
Post # 15
Thanks again for all the encouragement and suggestions! I actually cruised over to the local Wal-Mart with Mrs. DG’s suggestion ofa watch in mind, becuase he REALLY needs one. Wal-Mart had lots of awesome watches he could wear to the office or on the trail for under $50! So I bought one for him and plan on surprising him with it tonight. And some of those homemade coupons 😉
@ Rosie Girl – great suggestion! If I hadn’t already left when you posted that I might have considered it too – FI loves That 70’s Show. Thanks anyways!