he didn't propose on our mini-vacations. Not surprised :(

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lsimpson:  maybe he is trying to throw you off so that when he proposes its a big surprise because you weren’t expecting it!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

yeah, I didn’t get proposed to over this. Wasn’t expecting it though’

We are 25 and 27 and finances are holding us back. It sucks

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, give him some time. If he wants kids with you, he is obviously committed to you and wants to spend his life with you. If he thinks he is too young for marriage, he probably is. Don’t rush him and give him some time, it will happen eventually if he is serious enough. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

You had a great mini-vacay; don’t let disappointment sully it and make you bitter.  Maybe he is still working on getting a ring.  Wouldn’t you rather have a proposal when he is ready and feels the time is right than if he felt rushed/pressured in the perfect place?  Proposals don’t have to be in beautiful locales to be perfect…DH proposed to me on my living room couch and it was wonderful.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@lsimpson:  I didn’t say you were bitter; just that don’t let your thoughts make you feel that way since the proposal didn’t happen during the vacation.

Well, it sounds like he is excited at the prospect of kids and a future with you, which is a good thing!  Even though you have been together for quite some time, he still may not be ready to pop the question.  Everyone is ready at different times…maybe he wants to wait until you guys are little older and wants to enjoy the time you have right now with each other before marriage.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

This is why, for my 30th birthday in January AND our recent vacation in Europe, I specifically asked him if it was going to happen(which it was’t).

My boyfriend feels like I’m ruining the surprise a bit but I’m just preempting an emotional breakdown!!

You definitely can’t force the guys to propose when you want them to but you can communicate and get a better idea of when it will, or won’t, happen.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Mmmm, I wish I could take a mini-vacay to somewhere that spectacular!

I know you’re disappointed, and I don’t blame you. But try not to let that disappointment ruin what sounds like an amazing birthday weekend with your man! 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@lsimpson:  I hear you! Hopefully whatever he does have planned for his proposal blows you away!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

There’ll be other amazing holidays! At least it was awesome 😀 I’m very jealous, I’d love to go away somewhere again T.T

 

I know how you feel though as I managed to not get engaged in Florence, Italy (official country of love lol), even though it was a wonderful time, there’s just a slight feeling of “why isn’t this good enough to propose now??”

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Gemstone:  +1– OP, I’m sure your proposal will be even more fabulous than it would have been on this mini vacay! Lucky you- lots to look forward to!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@MaidMarian:  Yup, I know the “why isn’t this good enough?” feeling when you go to an amazing place!

@Laurenplusalex:  I completely sympathize. My SO and I went on a short vacation to a place that’s very romantic and special to us in May, and I was also kind of disappointed it didn’t happen. I still really enjoyed the trip, but I was kind of upset, too. We’re going on another mini-vacation at the end of August, and I’m pretty well convinced that it’s not going to happen then either. . . but one can always hope. I imagine either your SO is planning something and hasn’t got everything lined up yet, or he just isn’t ready. But it sounds like he is probably working on it. 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@lsimpson:  Love the Algarve! We travelled it last year 🙂

I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I’m going away with my SO this week to Slovenia (stunning little country). I didn’t want to be on tenterhooks for the trip; I want to enjoy it in its own right. So I specifically asked him whether he was planning on doing it there.

He said no, and that he wouldn’t lie to me. He also didn’t like the idea and ‘hassle’ of trying to get the ring through the airport without me knowing.

Part of me is happy that I know and I can go and have an epic trip. However a little part of me thinks ‘but that would be incredible!’

I’m sure it’ll be brilliant when it does happen for you 🙂 

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