Post # 1
My SO doesn’t want a dog. But after we get married I was thinking of getting a small one because I think they are cute. However, I can really tell he doesn’t like them. I rather not have confusion in our marriage because of a dog, but I have always grown up as a child with pets: dogs, a cat, about a thousand fish, rabbit, snake (brothers he was hiding until it got out)lol, shrimp, hermit crabs, bird, etc.
He had a dog when he was smaller and doesn’t want the responsibility. How do I get him to have a liking for dogs without seeming like I’m pushing it on him? Even if we can’t have one I would love to chnage his perception on animals because they can really be very loving creatures.
Then again, I don’t know if I could handle the responsibilities of a dog….. maybe we should get a fish. lol
Post # 3
You could see if you could convince him to foster a dog. That way you could both see if it would be something that you both handle.
Post # 4
@MuchGreater: mmm I really want a dog too, however I am with your fi on this one, they are such a comitment we are waiting till we have kids b4 we get a dog, we figure we will be already tied down so a dog wont have a sig impact, On the other hand we have a cat, they are much lower maintenance.
Reasons Why a dog is a big commitment:
– Have to walk them daily
– Cant go away and leave them ie need someone to look after them
– expensive, vet bills, food, flea treatment.
-Need to train them,
Just some food for thought.
Post # 5
I think fostering a dog is a great idea! You can see if the responsibilities that come with owning a dog are to you and your fiance’s liking. I personally don’t see dogs as being THAT big of a hassle honestly since I have four dogs and my fiance and I aren’t busy beyond belief by them. We both work full time, go to school full time and we still manage to keep them happy. I have two little chihuahua’s, one is a toy sized and the other is a chubby ball of fluff 🙂 as well as two purebred pitbulls. They are all inside dogs and they aren’t too bad to manage.
I also wanted to point out that you don’t have to walk your dogs every day. Thats not typically what is done since most people don’t have the time but you might be able to do what I do and take my dogs on hour long walks every three days. The rest of the time they are out in my backyard wrestling and getting their energy out that way.
Vet bills are a must though. It’s a good idea to have some money put away in a seperate account just in case your pet ends up sick or needs to be taken in for an emergency.
Good luck! I hope your fiance comes around to the idea of a new addition to your life. =)
Post # 6
Fostering is a great idea – just make sure you foster a 2+ year old dog if you can. It’s puppies that take a lot of work and dedication.
We got a 9 week old puppy when we moved in 2009 – he’s been a lot of work and caused a lot of stress (between peeing everywhere and eating everything), but it’s been a great experience. We got another puppy last August (2010) who is even crazier than the first (as he’s all labrador), and with it comes a lot more responsibility.
I was dead set on getting a dog when we moved, but he wanted to wait. I started taking him to visit shelters and made an appointment at our local humane society to go by the farm where the dogs are kept. It was there that we found our first dog – he was the last one of his litter and just so adorable. I wanted him, and FI finally agreed. He wasn’t set on getting one until I started taking him around looking at them. I never had a dog growing up though (or a cat – just fish/reptiles), so getting one was a huge deal to me.
While it does take dedication and some responsibility, it’s not that hard once they get a bit older. The biggest committment is money though – our older one (he’s only 1.5 years now) already had a major surgery and is going to likely require another one in the next year or so, as he has hip dysplasia. We never budgeted for this, but knew we had to help him.
Sure, you can’t just go away at the drop of a hat, but you have a new friend to take with you. We take our boys on all our vacations, and the one just loves to swim (the other loves the sand). It’s so nice to have something to come home to that loves you no matter what – even if your in a bad mood. With an older dog (past puppyhood), you can at least go to work and not worry about someone letting them out (though it is nice). I love not having to hire a babysitter everytime I want to go to the store, or just hang out with friends somewhere, but I still have something to love when I get home.
I’ll be honest – we don’t walk ours everyday. They go out on a leash, and if a neighbors dog is out, they sometimes get to play. We do go to the dog park once a week usually. The two of them just run around the house when we are home, playing with each other.
Post # 7
@noritake22: hmmm never heard for that we should give it a try
Post # 8
@simpleandchic: Yeah I see his point, but they are just sooo cute! LOL I guess I can wait. My brother always fed and took care of ours,,, maybe I don’t get how all the responsibility would be on me. We can wait some days the urge for a doggy is stronger than others. This summer I stayed with a friend from college and was like, I no longer want a dog too much work….. lol idk