Post # 1
ok you prob read my previous post about my bf of four years and i. ok well i just talked to him again! demanded a answer does he or doesnt he want marriage. this is how it went:
earlier today my bf said “when we get married and have kids” but then later that day my “father in law” thought i said my bf and i should have a baby by next year…” i said ” naw to early, i need to be married”. my bf says “marriage means nothing…kids together means more”…i just gave him a look.
At dinner my and bf and i were alone, i said to him how he confuses me. my bf asks why?…i said “because one min you say when we get married…and the next you don’t want too…its exhausting..do you want to get married at all?” ..”my bf says “no ” and laughs and trys to joke around and telling me to calm down trying to change topic…im like “come on..stop im serious..im not asking you to propose now..just wanna know if on same page”..,so he smiles and says ” well not going to happen this year but soon”…,soo i said “ok thats all i wanna know, i don’t want to be like sarah pressuring jack..its just you have been on and off for years!” ..he laughs and says “well you gotta relax! learn how to take a joke..what if i don’t propose?” still smiling…i look at him like see what i mean….then he says “your suppose to tell me when ….act like sarah tell me when to propose” and so i said “no because at same time if you dont want it i dont…,not the same!” then he says “.i do want marriage in my future with you ..or with someone else”..,took me a min to catch on..so im like omg…he laughs and pulls me into his arms…”you know we will one day….as long as your with me”.
i was soo flustered omg lol see this is how he acts everytime i try to talk marriage with him :/ i don’t think he wants marriage :'( made that clear tonight…,,,which don’t understamd cause he wants babies with me..,..seriously! if im good enough to have his babies im good to marry! i told him…i don’t even need a ring ..all i want is to be his wife one day…not his gf forever! then he jokes about making me pregnant on purpose before marriage and im like no way ill be mad…he laughs says “we will oneday.., relax babe!”
Post # 3
I can’t understand your writing, but I’m very sorry that your boyfriend doesn’t want to marry you. I’m not sure what advice to give…
Post # 4
Your post are very hard to understand. From all of your post it sounds like your bf isn’t ready for marriage. Probably too immature for parenthood. There’s no way to know if he’ll ever be ready. You have to decide if that’s something you can live with.
Post # 5
@MsSparklyBee: what don’t you understand?….thats how the conversation went. i will try and make it clearer
Post # 6
@xoxlovemeforeverxox: it’s just hard to know who said what by the way you wrote it
Post # 7
From this one, and your past threads, it honestly sounds like he’s stringing you along. I’m not sure of your age (it might be lost somewhere in your post, not sure), but you definitely don’t sound ready to have children, in my opinion.
Post # 8
Your posts would be easier to read if you used proper grammar, spelling, and formatting. It gets unclear who is saying what and what they’re saying.
Post # 9
@cmbr: +1 this is exactly what I was going to say but phrased better lol
I’m pretty sure I understand the gist and it sounds like he’s not planning on marrying you. He doesn’t want to get married but still wants you so he’s confusing you & trying to get you to stay by saying he will propose eventually. If marriage is a dealbreaker, you should leave him before he actually does try to get you pregnant in order to keep you.
Post # 10
@xoxlovemeforeverxox: it doesn’t sound like he’s even mature enough to have a real conversation about your future together, never mind mature enough to get married or have kids. As PP said, I’m not sure how old you both are, but I would consider how strongly you want to get married and whether or not your and his goals are in line. I would suggest having another conversation with him, but from this and your previous posts, I’m not sure that another conversation would get you anywhere
Post # 11
@xoxlovemeforeverxox: also – make sure you’re in control of your own birth control (pill, shot, patch, etc.) if he’s “joking” about getting you pregnant.
Post # 12
@xoxlovemeforeverxox: Not really understanding your post… but one piece of advice – if he says he doesn’t want to get married, believe him and move on.
Post # 13
You two don’t seem ready to get married.
Post # 15
Dump that guy and RUN! He doesn’t want a wife, he wants a BABY MAMA!
Also, I had a guy try to get me pregnant once so I wouldn’t leave. It didn’t work, but he confessed to it as I was leaving! He’d been throwing away some of my pills (so I would see the pack and go “Oh, I must have taken it today”) And he poked holes in the condoms!
I am SO lucky I got out of that mess!
Post # 16
@BrandNewBride: WTF. That’s crazy!