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Would he compromise and wear one for the ceremony and the other for the reception, and both for pics?
@35thannidaughter: LOVE this idea! Maybe he wants to be able to wear a tux for once! Do one for the ceremony & one for the reception if he will!
Is he an academy grad? Could you tempt him with party sleeves? lol! FI is wearing his uniform (as well as all the GMs) with the promise of party sleeves! haha
@maudemaisha: lol yea! they are these things that AF academy grads do.. (at least i think its only them) they take their shirts that go with their mess dress and pretty much cut out the sleeves and back (the parts covered by the jacked) and put some crazy fabric/ costume on to those parts.. SO from the outside with the jacket on.. it looks totally normal.. but when they take the jacket off.. they have a party on their sleeves LOL lemme see if I can find a pic!
@MrsNeutrino: hahaha that sounds awesome ! I hope you do find a pic :) thanks !
AHAHA!!! No he is not an academy grad, did ROTC through Fresno State and then was commissioned. This is awesome though!!! Maybe I'll suggest it! 
@MrsNeutrino: hahaha that is absolutely awesome !! Thank you ! I cant wait to see what your FI does !!!
Try to think of it from your FI's point of view too. The military is so much of his life, that he may want to keep it out of his wedding. Heaven knows it'll be a part of the marriage! If he's planning on leaving the Air Force at some point, he may not want to look back at his wedding pictures and see a uniform.
My FI didn't want to wear his blues either, and several of his buddies felt the same for their weddings. I surely wouldn't want to wear mine! Putting on that uniform involves more than just clothing, it carries a lot of weight and expectations. It's one thing to wear it to a military function and another at a highly personal event like one's wedding.
@AirForceWife78: Hello fellow Air Force Officer wife! I love my Captain in his AF tux but he doesn't want to wear his either. That's ok with me but I was a little bummed at first as well. We comprimised on doing a trash the dress photo shoot with his tux on...so it all worked out!
@Opus: I second this!!! My husband was the same way (though he is in the Navy). I always think he looks quite handsome in his uniform, but he really wanted to wear a tux. His reasoning? "You (the bride) get to get all dressed up in fancy clothes that you never get to wear, why can't I? I wear my uniform for WORK. You wouldn't want to have to wear your work clothes on your wedding day, would you? Let me dress to the 9's!" It made sense when he put it like that. He is in the military, but he isn't only "military." He has a life outside of his job, and wanted to look back on his wedding years from now and remember something other than it being "just another part of his career." I get that now (though it was hard for our parents to understand, and I still get all weak in the knees when I see him in dress blues or whites!). :)
@AirForceWife78: suggest it! He can always say no lol
@maudemaisha: I cant wait either! FI is keeping those plans under lock and key, I won't know until the reception whats under there lol!
I think he should wear a tux if thats what he wants. I personally prefer the look of a tux or suit over the uniform. I agree with @mrs_pugetsound: that if you really think of it you wouldnt want to wear your work uniform to get married either.
@Opus: Yep.
In the end, please don't force him to wear it. If there is one decision the groom gets to make, it's what he wears. My DH refused to wear his as well. To him, the Air Force is his job, not his life. He doesn't like the 2 to get confused.
Makes sense ladies! But then we just had a discussion and I told him I totally understand now why he doesn't want to wear it and I respect that, and what does he tell me? "No I decided to wear it" Men. lol.
@AirForceWife78: My FI flip flopped several times as well. The reason he eventaully decided to wear his whites? They're free. No joke, he didn't want to pay for a suit or tux, lol.
Once he made that decision he decided he wants to do the arch of swords which wouldn't look right (or maybe isn't allowed) out of uniform, so USN choker whites it is!
My man is probs going to wind up wearing his uniform because he can't make up his mind, haha. I vote at least wearing the uniform for some pics. He might not be too keen on it now, but he'll want to have those photos later on in life.
Ahhhh my FI is a former Marine and doesn't want to wear his either :( I tried to get him to compromise and wear them for the ceremony and change into a suit for the reception and all he says is that "he'll think about it"....UGH!
My fiance just agreed to wear his for our wedding! I was a little worried (and disappointed) when he didn't seem very enthusiastic about it when I first asked him.
But I gave him some time to think (eriously why do guys need to think for so long, it's so annoying!) and he just told me this morning he would do it. I am so excited. He wore it to his brother's wedding in 2010 and he looked realllly good in it I wanted him to wear it to ours. Looks like he's going to!
Maybe you can talk to him about it? Or use his dress blues for pictures on a separate day? At least you'll get the pictures of him in it.
I've totally changed my tune on this topic! The whole "would you want to wear your work clothes to your wedding?" thought really struck me. We're doing gray tuxes for all the guys including FI (navy blue BM dresses, it's going to look so sharp!) and he's happy happy happy! :)
My husband didn't want to wear his uniform either but I ended up convincing him of wearing it and I think he was happy he did. 
He wore his uniform for the photo session done the same day as the ceremony and reception. He also wore it for the religious ceremony and to dance our wedding song. After that, he changed into a tux. I am very glad he did because I love the way our pictures look with him in his uniform.
@mrs_pugetsound: yer hubby put it very well! I totally agree. the groom should be comfy on the big day too, it's HIS day as much as YOURS. GL xx
DH is in the Army and didn't want to get married in his Class A's, and putting him in a suit ended up looking SO much better with the colors in our wedding
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FI is an officer in the Air Force, and I always pictured him marrying me in his mess dress. He told me 2 days ago he wants to wear a tux, I'm kinda bummed :(