Post # 1
Long story short, my ex FI decided to end it two weeks ago. It is super painful, but Im honestly just kind of numb now. He has been talking to his ex and admitted to having an emotional affair. He also told me he has always wanted to have a large family (like 5+ kids!) when he knew I was not planning on ever having any children (he told me he thought he could change my mind).
To be honest I should have saw this coming…our wedding was less than 3 months away and he wouldn’t even attempt to book a honeymoon or talk about the wedding at all.
He told me to keep my engagement ring since he felt bad for not taking me on the honeymoon he promised and told me to do whatever I want with it.
We got it from Helzberg Diamonds and I am not familiar with their policy but I highly doubt I can return it…what should I do? Its beautiful and breaks my heart to get rid of it..but it is way too painful to keep it. I don’t want to pawn it off either because I heard you get majorly ripped off with that.
Any ideas/suggestions? I know its usually customary to give it back, but he wont take it back and keeps insisting I keep it….
Post # 3
I’m very sorry you’re going through this, but it’s definitely better that you found out now instead of after you two were already married.
One of my friends sold her engagement ring on ebay after she and her exFI broke up, she got a decent price for it. Idk about Helzburg, maybe call them and ask? Doesn’t hurt to ask.
Post # 4
Most of the chain jewelry stores let you trade up, so maybe you could trade it in for a different kind of jewelry that you pick on your own that won’t have an attachment to this relationship.
Post # 5
@navywifenmoore: I’m sorry 🙁 That sounds terrible. Stay strong! And sell that ring online girl!
Post # 6
Get it reset into a new ring, or necklace, or SELL it. Call Helzberg and ask if they will buy it back.
Post # 7
I would sell it for sure. Any jewelry you get in exchange for it will be tarnished by this relationship eventually. Ebay that thing.
But before that you’ve got to take some time for yourself to recover from this. Give yourself some breathing room before making any major decisions, but let all your vendors know as soon as you’re able so you can try and get out of those contracts.
Post # 8
If the stone is nice, have it reset into something you would like to wear.
Or do what I did – sell it and buy a motorcycle. But don’t pawn it. Pawn shops don’t pay anything near fair value. Go to a jeweler who buys estate jewelry.
Post # 9
@navywifenmoore: Sell it, put an ad up in thwe local paper or simply go to a pawn shop. Be happy this happened now rather then after the wedding. It’s obviously for the best, you both want copmpletely different things out of life and children cannot be compromised on, yiou can’t have half as kid. Surround your self with friends and family and try to keep your mind off of it.
As hard as it is to hang on to the ring, maybe put it away somewhere for now, until your really ready to let go and move on. Selling it when that time comes will be much easier on you, it will alos help to feel like the first step in truly getting on with your life.
Post # 11
@geekspice: LOVE that idea!!!
Trade it in for something good, I woudln’t do jewelry tho, I’d think of that jerk everytime I wore whatever I got.
Post # 12
@navywifenmoore: I work with a girl who wears hers as a right hand ring (which I find a little strange, but it’s gorgeous) but if you don’t want to do something like that you can have it melted down and reworked into something that won’t pain you as much.
Post # 13
I had a friend who was the male in the situation and he went to the store and traded the ring for a fancy watch he then sold in ebay for about what he paid for the ring. It’s hard to sell a engagement ring.
Sorry about the cancelled engagement (been there!)
Post # 14
Sell it and go on a nice trip.
Post # 15
Hugs.. I’m so sorry your going through this!
Post # 16
Try web site I do now I don’t
It is a reputable resale web site.