Post # 1
Out for a walk the other night, my darling and i started talking about engagement rings randomly (we’ve never had the discussion before). I was saying how i don’t want him to spend an exorbidant amount of money on me when the time finally comes … but still, i want it to be something lovely.
He says, "I mean, i better be getting some kind of present if I’m going to be shelling out all this money on a ring" … and in turn i (reflexively) respond, "of course dear, I’ll get you a Harley or a boat or something pretty…" And at this point, we’re at our destination, and the conversation stops.
It got me thinking though. A lot. For those of you married or engaged ladies … Did you get your honeys something pretty in return when they proposed? i know that i would like to, and have been thinking about it for a while, but now that it’s sort of expected, it takes a bit of the fun out of it.
What is protocol? I know that i should have probably punched him in the face for expecting anything besides a lifetime of my undying devotion, love, care, and comfort as his "reward" for proposing… but truly, is that enough? (clearly, for him it is NOT, the chump, even though i know he was in-part joking…)
I’m VERY interested to get your thoughts on the situation! Any advice/tips would be greatly appreciated! And of course, i’m not expecting this ring to show up any time soon (clearly there is a LOT of growing up that has to be done… sheesh!) but it’s good to have the knowledge of what is expected before it does actaully happen!
Post # 3
I’ll give him a child in a few years.
Post # 4
He’s getting a beautiful wife in return!
Maybe you could barter with a game of Twister!? Most guys would be fine with that!
Post # 5
My FH got his gift. I said yes. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Some women get their FI’s watches as an engagement gift. But I don’t actually know anyone who’s done it. I like runningbee’s response. 😉
Post # 7
My hubby says stuff like that all the time, in jest. Are you sure he wasn’t joking?
Don’t feel bad about not getting him something in return! He doesn’t need anything but you!
Post # 8
haha, I love runningbee’s response. I don’t know, it does make sense that your guy get something, seeing as I just got an official proposal last week maybe I’ll get him a little something…we’ll see. It’s a very interesting and good point you’ve raised, but he is getting you for life, that’s a pretty good deal I think!!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
A friend of mine bought her FI a watch after he proposed, but it was her culture (or family tradition) to do so.
Post # 10
hahaha, yeah, i’m SURE he was joking, in a way, but he also has the tendency to want to get something out of everything,,, which is why i joked back and told him i’d get him a Harley. 😉
i dunno, i think it sort of struck a chord with me… like, do you really need to ask what you’re getting out of this???
but also i wanted to know if any of you gals got your honey’s anything in return, and if it had to equal the value of the ring or what… i already know exactly what i’d get him, something he would DIE to have, that i’ve put quite a bit of thought into, but it doesn’t come close to the cost of a ring — probably about 1/5 of it… so i was just curious. 🙂
i think it’s certainly all about making your special someone happy, regardless of anything else! that’s what i want, is for my honey to be happy! i just hope he doesn’t need a $15,000 Harley to do that!! hhaha!
Post # 11
I agree with runningbee and BridetoBee2010. FH didn’t expect anything in return and I don’t know of any brides who felt obligated to give a gift (or did so) either.
Post # 12
I would think he was being sarcastic. I don’t actually know of anyone who has gotten their boyfriend a gift for proposing to them … but that topic has never came up irl, so I have no idea.
Are you sure he wasn’t talking about sexxy time? Lol.
Post # 13
My FI would make jokes that I needed to get him a gift, but he wasn’t serious about it. Though I do know women that got stuff for their FI in return (a nice watch, a TV, etc.) I bought "us" a new computer like a month later and told him it was a joint christmas and engagement gift.
Post # 14
One of our friends gave a gift to her husband in return, and I gave my FI a new lens he wanted for his camera. We told everyone it was a mangagement present. I think it’s a great idea personally. It’s sweet, and for how much effort that guys put into an engagement ring it’s fair, I think. I figured I get him for the rest of my life too, why should I be the only one that gets a little gift?
Post # 15
Hm…I never even thought of giving him a gift. Although Mr. S would probably be more mad if I got him one than if I didn’t (he hates it when I spend money on him…sometimes it’s unreasonable but for the most part it’s sweet).
Post # 16
I don’t think it occured to my husband to expect something in return, but I did get him a very nice watch he had admired as an ‘after-engagement’ present. He was very excited and referred to it as his ‘engagement watch.’ I don’t think you have to give him anything and I am sure he was mostly joking, but you could make it a fun thing and buy him a little gift after he pops the question. Gifts are never bad and he will be getting you a rather nice one!