Post # 1
You all know from my prior posts that I recently moved out after 3yrs. of no proposal. We’ve talked on the phone almost every day(haven’t seen each other)and I told him I’d set a 2wk date for us to get together for dinner and give him the opportunity to tell me anything he had to say. I told him I wouldn’t come back without a commitment and date and a plan of how we can both be a family make decisions TOGETHER and not seperately. He had issues with doing things together on all levels-financial,children,etc etc.(ex-wife cheated hence he became committment phobe) which eventually led to the breakup.We are both divorced and this would be the second time around and he carries baggage that he is just NOW showing signs of finally dumping(took me leaving I guess!!)He is giving strong hints that Thurs. he is gonna pop the question. His attitude has completely done a 360 and he’s my best friend and the person I would love to grow old with. He got together with his mom and they “took a walk”. He told me not to enroll my daughter in a different school yet(she would have to switch since I moved out),he asked me to go away with him this weekend and I told him I wouldn’t date unless there was a committment and he said I wouldn’t be disappointed. Does this equal proposal?????I’m still telling myself it very well may be JUST dinner but I really am hoping he asks. He has stepped up to the plate with my daughter(he took her out to the movies and they had a great time,and asked if he could take her again wed.) I did tell him that I hope he’s just not trying to impress me,but really wants to make a change(both of us need to)to make it work. He sounds amazingly interested,perhaps a changed man now that I left. Keep your fingers crossed for me bees,I really do love this man!
Post # 3
Fingers are crossed. Goodluck!
Post # 4
Good Luck! Sometimes they really do have to be hit over the head.
Post # 5
Sounds promising, good luck! I really hope it works out!
Post # 7
I hope for your sake you get the propsal you want, but I hope you take time to improve your relationship before you move ahead with a wedding. It sounds like you have a lot bigger issues to work out beside getting a ring.
To go from being completely different pages financially, children, etc. to engaged is a huge jump. Those things are what relationships are all about.
Post # 8
Thinking of you and wishing you the best!
Post # 9
I agree with mrskesslertobe. Also if it helps it took me not only moving half way across the country, but also almost a year of not being together and then him see me practically begin a new relationship with someone else for him to realize he wanted a relationship and commitment with me (the idea of a proposal/marriage was not on the horizon, just having a relationship). Sometimes guys need a lot more time to realize they are really losing someone.
Post # 10
@MrsPinkPeony: The real issue wasn’t the committing is was dealing with his wall that he built of being scared from prior baggage and not wanting to combine things. Now that he is dealing with that,it will enable both of us to move towards bigger goals in our relationship. We will be engaged for awhile and that will allow for time to work on things and see if we both can make things work. He knows and has verbalized what he needs to do and I know what I have to do. Hopefully it all works out but I’m in NO rush to move back in,actions do speak louder than words! I would like to work on it with a commitment though. Hopefully I’ll have some good news to post on thur!