Post # 1
Should I be upset? I asked him last night if we were doing anything today and he said no. I then asked if he knew what tomorrow was, and then he thought about it and said “3years… its been that long already?… Honestly I did forget.” Really, what does that say about our relationship? We have had some affection issues(or lack there of… on my part) recently that are very fixable (I’m working on it). What do I do. I pretty hurt by it all. All advice welcomed:)
Post # 3
I think you should cut him some slack on forgetting the anniversary. I’m personally not good with dates and forget things like anniversaries all the time. One year FI forgot my birthday. It sucks, but try not to let it get to you…
Post # 4
I think it happens, and sometimes it hurts, sometimes it doesn’t.
My Fiance and I have BOTH forgotten our anniversary, and a few days later we remember, laugh about it, and celebrate right then and there. I don’t think it says anything about your relationship, he still loves & cares about you.
Post # 5
I never remember dates. I wouldn’t take it personally but thats just me.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about it. My fiance and I kind of remind each other leading up to it or else we would both probably forget. It’s not a big deal, seriously. I would never wait til the day of and then spring it on him because that would be setting myself up for disappointment.
Post # 7
Let it go. Men and women are different. That’s why we both love them and get driven crazy by them.
In future when there are dates important to you coming up- don’t keep it a secret!
Talk about it in casual comversation ahead of time “Betty asked me to go to the gym with her Saturday night but I had to tell her no because that’s our anniversary”
He’ll get the message.
Post # 8
My dad still, to this day, mixes my birthday with my mothers and my sisters. We’re all in December. Poor guy just can’t get it straight.
Post # 9
I would let it go. I know FI doesn’t always remember ours but we are still doing little month ones bc we aren’t at a year yet. But, I wouldn’t be really upset about it. Try to feel better! ((Hugs))
Post # 10
Thanks sooooooooo much bees. I would’ve probably overreacted if I hadn’t asked someone for advice. Its nice to know that its normal for this kinda thing to happen. Now I’ll be able to just let it go and have a wonderful day;)
Post # 11
Did you have anything planned for him for your anniversary? Love is a two way street. My FI doesn’t care for Valentines Day, so never used to get me anything, but because I like celebrating it, I’ve always at least wrote him a card. It took him a few years to catch on that it was important to me, but he gets it now.
Post # 12
If I didn’t enter all my important dates and appointments in my Blackberry, I would completely forget everything. SO is the same way. I take the approach of bringing things up in advance so that neither of us forget.
For example, I ask, “What would you like to do for our anniversary next week? I can make dinner if you want or we could get all dressed up and go out?” ….that way he starts to think about it and it totallly takes the stress off. I do the same with birthdays or holidays.
Post # 13
I would cut him some slack. Before we had a real anniversary DH never remembered an anniversary and would even forget how long we had been together!
Post # 14
For what it’s worth, I forgot today was my anniversary with the boy until RIGHT NOW.
This does not mean in ANY WAY that I do not want to marry him.
Give him some time, see if he pulls something together for tonight. People forget, it happens.
Post # 15
I’ll put in my recent experience here.
Our anniversary was on January 22rd, just a little while ago. My boyfriend and I have had a VERY rough year, so our anniversary was something we were both looking forward to as a goal and an accomplishment. Me, being the overachiever in a relationship always, started planning months ago. I did a ton of research and eventually I settled on going to the Chocolate Fest in the morning followed by a 3 hour trip to the spa where we got a couple’s massage followed by a facial and a body scrub for both as well. Then the plan was I would cook dinner.
We agreed that I would take care of Saturday and he would take me out Friday. We each got a day. As some time passed we whittled that plan down to my events, followed by him taking us out to a nice dinner after the spa on Saturday.
We talked and talked and talked about our anniversary. I marked it on the large calendar and stamped decorations around the whole month of January. The entire week before the 22nd I chatted up the anniversary and he promised me that he had some place special to take me and that he would make reservations.
Well, Saturday came and after a wonderful day, I got fancied up for the dinner. When we arrived at the surprise location it was this great place he had been wanting to take me to for months. We walked up to the counter and he said “Do you have any available tables.”
It is a very popular place and it was a Saturday night, of course they didn’t have any tables left. To be honest my heart sank and I cried the whole way home. Not because I didn’t get to eat at that restaurant, but because my boyfriend did NOTHING. No present, no dinner reservation, nothing. It just hit me that he didn’t make an honest mistake and forget, he just didn’t do a damn thing for our anniversary.
He knows he screwed up and he promises to make it up to me. Your guy I’m sure realized that it was a bit of a slip up. Let him make it up to you somehow.
Post # 16
Personally, I would be pretty upset if my SO forgot our anniversary, but that is mostly because he is very good at keeping track of and remembering things, so him forgetting something means it really wasn’t important enough to remember lol.