- 7 years ago
I’ve been dating BluesGuy for nine months. I thought I knew pretty early on that he was the fabled one, and he started giving off some signals within the first few months that indicated that he may feel the same way — to the point that I was concerned that he was going to propose on Christmas, which I thought was WAY too early.
Back in April, the week of my birthday, I told him that if he asked, I’d say yes. He smiled, and said that was good to know. Two days later he gave me my present — a trip to Fort Lauderdale in July.
I’ve been wondering where this was going for a while. We’re both in our 30s, and my feeling is that at the year mark, there was going to be a come-to-Jesus talk, because I know I want to get married, and if he didn’t, that was fine, but we needed to resolve it.
We had lunch todday with my best friend, and I was showing her the emerald and diamond ring I’d gotten from my greatgrandmother. She turns to BluesGuy and asks, “Should she get used to wearing a ring?” He blushed, and paused, and I changed the topic. 🙂
Later on, I joked about her putting him on the spot, and he started to play with the ice in his drink, and made a comment about “Not knowing what’s appropriate to say.” I asked him what he meant, and he paused again. I asked him if he wanted, when I went to the jewelry store to have the prongs checked on my greatgrandmother’s ring, for me to have the ring sized, since it fits me perfectly. “Yes, that’s information I’d like to have.”
So we’re in the last leg of the trip, and he brings it up again. And I mention that I could go at anytime to get the ring sized — but he needs to let me know when. And the following conversation happens.
“I can go at anytime.”
“What do you mean?”
“I can go at anytime. You just need to let me know.”
“Are you asking me for a timeline?”
“No, I don’t want to be that kind of girl who’s asking for a timeline. What I’m asking is if you have a timeline that I need to know about.”
“Yes, I have a timeline. But I don’t know what is OK to say. I’ve only seen it in the movies… I should ask my sister.”
So *he* has a timeline? *sighs* This is gonna drive me nuts. Which is exactly why I joined.