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OMG! I don't know what is wrong with Mister.  Do men have PMS?  He is really pissed because I told him yes, if I were single, I would date a NFL Player.  Not like we know this person other than what we watch on Monday night football.  He asked the question and I answered it and now he's pissed.  He told me my attraction level has dropped.  He added significantly as he walks out my room and says he's going home.  WTH?  I go after him to try to get him to talk and he just says, "look, I'm tired and I shouldn't have come here tonight anyway.  I have a long drive home.  We'll talk tomorrow."  I again try to talk to him and he snaps at me, "look, just let me have a moment to myself.  I don't want to be here right now.  I'll call you in the morning!"  

I am so upset.  I want to call him and talk, but I know I should give him his space.  Why would he be so upset behind "his" hypothetical question.  Male PMS?  Does it exist?  Even so, he was pretty nasty to me.  His tone was very harsh.  He's not a yeller, so there were no loud voices; but the tone.  It's something I'm not used to.  It has me to thinking about our future.  

Have any of you been in disagreements/fights with your SO, which caused you to seriously think about taking a break? Am I just being sensitive.  

@cinemaparadiso:  Yea, I think I'm going to just relax and read until I fall asleep.

@hitruax: no, not the jealous type at all.  This is totally out of character for him. No, we're not living together.  He actually lives a little over an hour away from my house.  We generally only see each other on the weekend, but he surprised me with Thai take out tonight.  Not sure, but I think he is PMS or having cold feet or something.  It was so out of character and so immature.    

@crebre: girl you have me over here rolling.  LOL!!!  Maybe he is stressed out about this here proposal.  He sure didn't handle it well.  Clearly Male PMS.  And Girl, I can't do the stepford wife thing.  I think I'll choke on my own vomit as I try to do that madness.  He knows this and would likely see right through it and take it as me being sarcastic and get even more upset.  Ya'll I'm just so confused on why or how this happened.  So not like him.  

I'm glad for the hive, cause without you ladies, I'd be texting or calling him forcing him to explain himself.  I'm sort of a control freak like that.  LOL!!!  I'm a work in progress.  

@crebre: girl you are the best!  Yes, I'd have to go Mary J. Blige on him.  LOL!!!  The football player isn't even someone I have a crush on.  I just said I'd date him, if I was single and he approached me.   I actually call him the fat quarterback.  LOL!!!  He plays for the Oakland Raiders.  His name is JaMarcus Russell.  He is not really my type, but I'd give him a chance IF I WAS SINGLE.  LOL!!!!  AND LIKELY ONLY ONE DATE.  I said all of these things.  Here is pic of the Fat Quarterback.  I call him that because the first time I saw him play, I was like, he's too fat to be a quarterback, you're kidding me, right.  To the mister!  The mister laughed so hard and ever since, we've called him the fat quarterback.  Here is a very good picture of him.  I recently saw him at a game and he was FAT for a quarterback.  I expect some lean mean moving machine.  

@crebre:  Girl, I'm a stilettos-thong wearing problem solver too.  LOL!!!  I get it from my mom.  She is always saying that to her friends.  "Giiiirl, just put on your pumps and your lace panties or a thong and he'll shut up."  LOL!!!  I grew up hearing her and her girlfriends talk and her saying this to them ALL the time.  So, I'm right there with you.  Michael Vick is cute; but I'd be afraid to date him.  Especially in the Bay Area with all of us dog lovers.  I can imagine the hate mail I'd receive.  LOL!!! 

hahaha!  I remember a month or so ago, after having dinner, my BF discussed getting a realtor's license.  I made some flippant comment about him finding me a house and assisting with the closing... and the hurt look on his face was horrid!  He looked at me and said, "You don't see a future with me?"

I didn't even say it in a tone which would indicate that!

Ahhh, so anyways, a few days later I found out he has actually started saving for "our" future children's college fund.  I made him insecure about our relationship. :/

Ladies, I woke up this morning with like 5 text messages of him apologizing.  He felt horrible for getting "jealous" (his word, not mine) of some random dude and even worse that he took it out on me.  He was really upset with himself.  Apparently he had this huge fight with his ex-wife about his daughter and her having issues with his daughter spending so much time at my house.  Although he has custody of his twin boys, his oldest son and his daughter are with their mom.  She really upset him by saying some negative things about me and that lead to them arguing and him hanging up and her calling him leaving a nasty message.  I had no clue this went on.  I thought they had a very open and cool relationship under the circumstances (divorce and a nasty one at that).  I didn't know she had a problem with the little princess hanging out with me and my girls.  Apparently, the little princess told her mom she loves me a lot and the mom doesn't feel comfortable.  She is very protective of the little princess and I totally understand and am often been on her side whenever Mister complains about something.  So, I was surprised that she was uncomfortable with me.  He didn't tell me what negative things she said, he just told me that she said "negative" things about me that were highly stereotypical and it pissed him off.  I'm guessing something horrible about African-American women (she is Asian).  So, I guess my comment was something he totally didn't expect or need to hear at the time (why he asked still confuses me, but whatever).  So he left in order not to take out on me other issues going on in his life.  I think he needed to see me after the big fight with the ex and why he surprised me with dinner; but as he said, he was already edgy and moody and trying to be his normal cheerful self, when he should have just stayed at home alone.  So, we're good now.  I'm glad he did contact me early this morning.  I had decided last night, I would not call or text and would wait for him.  If he had me waiting all day, I'd be a mess.  Thank you ladies for all of your advice.  (sorry for the length)