- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I am a long-time lurker, first time poster.
Short backstory: my bf and I have been together for a bit over a year, and we do live together in a house that I bought. I’m in my late 20’s, he’s late 30’s. He has been married once, and engaged a second time. I have been engaged twice. (First time, I proposed to the guy. Second time, the guy started a 3 hour analytical discussion on why we should get married. I guess that’s the same as him proposing to me..?) Let’s just be open here- I’ve always wanted the well thought-out, cute, romantic proposal. Something that is US. (Not at a baseball game or some such huge public place..) My bf knows this and is very good at that sort of thing.
What I’m hoping for is that the ‘third time’s the charm’ for both of us. We put an incredible amount of work into our relationship’s foundation. We are so, so great as a couple. It’s heaven. (Oh, we have our disagreements- everyone does. But we sort em out.)
We’ve been wedding/marriage/ring talking for a few months. 4 weeks ago we went to a local jeweler to try on a few styles of e-rings. I prefer moissanite so we decided to go through moissaniteco.com in the end. A few days ago, he asked me to send him a list of my top choices. I have really large fingers (10.5-11 ring finger) so we have to get a custom quote from moissyco which of course will be more money. I was very conscious of the budget that he’d like to stay under, so I’m hoping the custom doesn’t add too much on top of that.
But, there’s still some major guilt about this too.. The money he’s budgetted for this could go so far in our kitchen renovation, for example. He knows how important the ring is to ME but it’s not as important to him as the proposal. Obviously, the top thing here is that we want to get married. I get that. But I am a squirrel and have been looking at rings for too darn long..
So, aside from my guilt about him wanting to spend this money on a ring for me, I’m also working on the ‘how do I not talk about wedding/etc type stuff every.5.minutes.every.darn.day’!!! I made a rule with myself- I can only ask a question or bring something up every 3 days. He knows this rule (Thanks, best-friend, who mentioned it.. ugh..) and so far I’m not doing too badly with it.
I have been told that he will pop the question before the end of summer. So. September 21. 😛 (Just to mess with me he will probably wait until Sept 20th. hah)
Other things that are on my mind: marrying him will make me an instant (step)mom, and a GRANDMA! He has a grand daughter due in about a month. Holy cow. Now, I should also mention that we do not want children. His one kid is enough for him, and I don’t want any of my own. So, this is kind of a big thing for me. I have been getting along really well with his daughter (who is 19 and lives with her .. um.. fiance. They were engaged after 5 mo of dating) and I’m kind of excited for babysitting a baby but I absolutely am also really nervous about it! YIKES!
Whew. that was a long post. Anyways. Glad there is this board and excited to finally actually talk with you bees. I feel like I know a lot of you already. 🙂