Post # 1
My bf and I have been together 4.5 years. We picked out a ring in fall 2011…. And I’ve just been waiting. Well, we just went on a gorgeous vacation to the Caribbean — and the ring was in his suitcase! (Had to peek. Sue me. 😉 ) but the vacation is over and no proposal.
What gives? Should I ask wtf is going on?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I might ask. That is a long-ass time to hold on to the ring!
Post # 5
After I got engaged, he told me of several times he wanted to propose and had the ring is his coat pocket but if something went the slightest bet bad, he wouldn’t do it.
he will do it on his own time and when he feels is right
Post # 6
Oh no! I’m so sorry. This is my worst nightmare! Apparently my guy has the ring and I’m thinking it’ll happen on our vacation at the end of the month but if it doesn’t I’m scared of how I will react. I think I will be totally crushed!
Honestly I would ask. That’s a long time for you to wait!
Good luck and keep us all posted!
Post # 7
Ask! That’s a loooong time to sit on the ring.
Post # 8
I definately think you should ask…Fall of 2011?? That’s a long time.
Post # 10
I’d be pissed. I have no advice, but I’d be really mad!
Post # 11
@lolot: +1 I would ask. I would have asked MONTHS ago. You have been very patient.
Post # 12
Oh my, at this point I would be kicking and screaming. But that’s just me. Yes, totally ask!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
DON’T ASK! If you ask you’ll just push back the proposal several more months until he thinks you’ve forgotten about it (though I TOTALLY understand your frustration).
The fact that he took the ring with him meant that he had planned to, but something about the timing/mood/place wasn’t quite right for him. He will surely do it soon, so do your best to be patient!! 🙂
Post # 14
One more for don’t ask! He’s so close!
Post # 15
+1 for MrsYoshida too! So many men have to have everything to be perfect for something big like that. It’s infuriating but asking will just ruin the surpise and he won’t do it for a while.
Post # 16
DON’T ASK!! My FI did the same thing. After we got engaged I was like “So WTF was your deal??” His logic “If I just didn’t ask or bring it up, you’d forget about it and then I could surprise you” <– that was wrong lol