Weddingbee boards

To start we have been dating for over  6 years and when the five year mark came around I assumed we would get engaged. I had just finished school and we had just bought a house and his career was reaching a really good and stable point. Needless to say he didn't propose and his mother was very very upset which just upset me - how can I quietly be disappointed when she is openly devastated. Oh well at least she really likes me. So this spring I left my job to start preparing to go back to school (med school) - something we both always new I would be doing. Then in May we started looking at rings - his idea. I found a ring out of state that was perfect so he found out how to order and all that. Then he planned a long weekend getaway on our six year anniversary (if you will). His family my family all our friends kept calling to see if he had - but no. On the last day my dad asked to speak to him (they are very close). When we got back I had found a school I really loved so I applied but it takes months and months to hear anything (I am just stressed beyond belief about that). This is when I told him that I would move out and leave him if I got a letter regardless or acceptance from the school before he proposes - I never wanted to feel like my dreams and ambitions were connected to whether or not someone would love me and spend there life with me.

That is a brief overview. Ages wise I am still young at 23 but he is 29 and is established. So I don't see concern over maturity ect. He told me four days ago he hadn't ordered the ring yet and I was upset because it takes a minimum of 3 weeks to make and size ect. He just said soon.

That brings us to yesterday morning - I have been sick and sleeping late - when our door bell rang and I was sprinting to the door (its a large house so you have to run if you want to actually answer the door) when I saw a UPS driver. I assumed it was something golf related signed for it and put it in the den. Later I was getting a book out of the den when I accidently saw the return address and knew it was the ring. I tried all day to ignor it and during our lunch time chat just reviewed how I was feeling and mentioned a box was delievered and had he ordered something for golf. He said no and he knew I knew what it was (I am extremely observant so almost nothing is not noticed or heard by me). I just denied it and told him to have a nice day and not worry about working late. When he got home I was already back in bed but I heard him opening the box and I wanted so bad to sneak up and just glance but I stayed put. He then came up after Iheard him hide it in his car and then lock it even though it was in the garage (I have been known to snope for suprises) and he told me it was really pretty but then said he wasn't sure about giving it to me (honestly I know this game so I just told him to get a pad and pen and make a list). I waited until he went to sleep and then stood out in the garage with the car alarm disarmer debating the ethics/morals or what I was considering doing - needless to say I haven't seen the ring. I ended up just standing there staring at the car. He took it with him this morning and I am trying to play it cool but I am jumping out of my skin - I am sure it will be left in the office today so no more snooping - I just really really want the ring so I can stop being anxious about both my personal life and proffessional life. I am so stressed out it is unbelievable.

Thoughts about this whole strange situation? What should I do?

So thanks for the comments. To sum up the day...

I tried my best to distract myself. I checked the mail for my med school letter 15 times, volunteered, and then went home to cook dinner - it was raining so tennis was out. My SO brought home a bottle of wine poured two glasses and went upstairs for his post work cool off. I yelled up that I needed the pumps left in his car from a Saturday party and ran out. I quickly checked the center console where he hides everything from me. I couldn't wait any longer and I saw the gift box. I went inside and set the table mentioning the shoes would need cleaning. We sat down and later went into the family room and curled up with the wine and tv. He then asked about a friend who wanted to propose and did I have any advice. I gave several of my perfect senieros and suggested a few websites to help. I also mentioned no nos. He said that his friend would think that they were lame. I then asked to see the ring - yes I should ignor it but I really really really want to see it. He said no so I waited for him to go to bed and I snuck out to the car again. The ring box was taken out of the gift box - I thought he would put it in the office. I am dying. I told him I was going out on Saturday and would be getting home in the early evening - maybe that will give him a chance.

Mean time my brother got really really sick and I called my best friend who is a nurse to see if she had and better ideas than me. She told me her boyfriend of 1 and a half years took her ring shopping and was very very specific about the details. Our other super close friend just married a guy she only knew for 2 years so I am of course happy/ecstatic but also going crazy.

Why can't I just have it - I am a real low profile gal when it comes to proposals all he has to do is grab some flowers on his way home and ask me to marry him, but he is making such an ordeal. Luckily I don't think he will want to leave it in the office over the weekend so I think he will probably have it with him burning a hole.

My apologies but I am probably going to rant everyday until I get the ring - it is driving me crazy.

Yesterday I woke up late and got a list together of all the household chores so that the house would be super clean and ready if he wanted to propose - I want an at home proposal with my dog. I did most of the list and started laundry before running out for work. I didn't get home until 10pm and tried really hard not to focus on the ring while I was there but sitting on the couch with the bf I could barely not scream out where is the ring.

Today is going to be another long and hard day I am working late again today. If I don't get it tomorrow I am going to scream. Very Very Very hard.

I just got home and my bf is flopped on the couch and won't make any plans for tomorrow - I am just getting the no way vibe from him. This sucks - I am glad I volunteered to come into work early again tomorrow to cover some stuff. Less time to obsess and more time to work.

Being good - haven't mentioned the ring to the bf since I found out it was here. That is 4 days!!!!

tired from a very long day and just informed that while I wasn't home for the last 9 hours he will not be proposing. Not this weekend - didn't I think it was too soon from when he got the ring?

I am very irratated and now he wants to go for drinks and oh yeah he announced he was making dinner and then put some frozen bread fish on the grill that he bought. I wonder if he even knows I don't eat that kind of stuff.

Just a little vent - I am now unavailable for the next 2 weeks which apparently he said he didn't know because really is he expected to listen to everything I have to say.

I am wondering if it is just all the stess that is making me so angry with him...

oh wow was that a rough weekend...

I was irratated and wanted to be left alone on Saturday. And after we went out with another couple on Sunday for lunch and I found out he had showed them the ring I was frustrated and confused and honestly angry (he can not stand the girl in the couple and yet he showed her too) so I went to do some work and didn't go home until after midnight and was much calmer and had a nice evening of cuddling and reconnecting.

But really I am going crazy....

Any advice on how to stay calm during this waiting game especially with him showing everyone the ring and bringing it up but not giving it to me. I don't want to be fighting over stupid things because I am irratated over the situation.

Okay so I have been alot calmer these last few days - probably because I got an interview with the medical school I applied to so I am over joyed and my focus has moved to preparing for that - which I would call the most important day of my life thus far

My bf has been super annoying though whinning about how he can't plan anything and why couldn't I help him with it. He was especially upset about it last night because we are getting so close to the weekend.

SO EXCITING.... I am like 95% sure that my bf is proposing this weekend. Although it won't be a suprise.

So I packed a nice picnic with sandwiches and wine and got our uncooperative dog ready to go. My bf came home and complained a bit about being tired but we went off without our uncooperative dog. As soon as we got there he started whining about the grass and bugs ect ect. Before I finished eatting I just wanted to run home and forget about the whole thing. He just whinned his way through the whole evening and I realized that while he has never been a romantic he associates romance with sex or it is romantic if your having sex which just pissed me off.

Then he wanted to talk about his plans tomorrow - I don't even care at this point if he does or doesn't propose - I feel like this has been dragged out and talked to death and that the truly important part of my life is on the way.

I have an interview to med school - yeah!

Is it wrong to be indifferent at this point? Does it mean something is wrong and we shouldn't be together at this point? What do you all think? Remember we have been together 6 and a half years.

I am so glad I have this board to use a vent - sorry to you all for the vents...

NEWS!!!!!!

MY BF or I guess now FI PROPOSED!!!

I woke up on Saturday and he was like lets go we need to leave . I was so confused I was like I need to get my contacts from the doctor and where are we going - I didn't know we had plans.

We rushed off for Philadelphia and stayed through Sunday. He proposed Sunday morning after I ruined 3 attempts Saturday night. It was so cute I heard him russling around but didn't care to wake up so I ignored him. He was trying to make me a green tea latte in the hotel room. Finally I rolled over and opened my eyes to see him sitting there next to me holding the box in one hand and the tea in the other with some stupid grin. I was like hey watcha doing. He stammers sometimes so I expected stammering but I didn't expect him to be at a loss of words. Finally he opened the box and reached for my hand to put the ring on. I then said excuse me aren't you suppose to ask something. He then says Will YOU MARRY ME? and I was speechless and reached for the ring the he says aren't you supposed to respond. So then I said YES and he slipped my gorgeous ring onto my finger and we headed out for a day of sight seeing.

I AM SUPER SUPER SUPER EXCITED!!!!!!