Post # 1
To start we have been dating for over 6 years and when the five year mark came around I assumed we would get engaged. I had just finished school and we had just bought a house and his career was reaching a really good and stable point. Needless to say he didn’t propose and his mother was very very upset which just upset me – how can I quietly be disappointed when she is openly devastated. Oh well at least she really likes me. So this spring I left my job to start preparing to go back to school (med school) – something we both always new I would be doing. Then in May we started looking at rings – his idea. I found a ring out of state that was perfect so he found out how to order and all that. Then he planned a long weekend getaway on our six year anniversary (if you will). His family my family all our friends kept calling to see if he had – but no. On the last day my dad asked to speak to him (they are very close). When we got back I had found a school I really loved so I applied but it takes months and months to hear anything (I am just stressed beyond belief about that). This is when I told him that I would move out and leave him if I got a letter regardless or acceptance from the school before he proposes – I never wanted to feel like my dreams and ambitions were connected to whether or not someone would love me and spend there life with me.
That is a brief overview. Ages wise I am still young at 23 but he is 29 and is established. So I don’t see concern over maturity ect. He told me four days ago he hadn’t ordered the ring yet and I was upset because it takes a minimum of 3 weeks to make and size ect. He just said soon.
That brings us to yesterday morning – I have been sick and sleeping late – when our door bell rang and I was sprinting to the door (its a large house so you have to run if you want to actually answer the door) when I saw a UPS driver. I assumed it was something golf related signed for it and put it in the den. Later I was getting a book out of the den when I accidently saw the return address and knew it was the ring. I tried all day to ignor it and during our lunch time chat just reviewed how I was feeling and mentioned a box was delievered and had he ordered something for golf. He said no and he knew I knew what it was (I am extremely observant so almost nothing is not noticed or heard by me). I just denied it and told him to have a nice day and not worry about working late. When he got home I was already back in bed but I heard him opening the box and I wanted so bad to sneak up and just glance but I stayed put. He then came up after Iheard him hide it in his car and then lock it even though it was in the garage (I have been known to snope for suprises) and he told me it was really pretty but then said he wasn’t sure about giving it to me (honestly I know this game so I just told him to get a pad and pen and make a list). I waited until he went to sleep and then stood out in the garage with the car alarm disarmer debating the ethics/morals or what I was considering doing – needless to say I haven’t seen the ring. I ended up just standing there staring at the car. He took it with him this morning and I am trying to play it cool but I am jumping out of my skin – I am sure it will be left in the office today so no more snooping – I just really really want the ring so I can stop being anxious about both my personal life and proffessional life. I am so stressed out it is unbelievable.
Thoughts about this whole strange situation? What should I do?
Post # 3
Oh my gosh! He’s going to propose!
That is so amazing. You shouldn’t be stressing. Enjoy this time because he obviously wants to surprise you. I’m sure he is planning out a wonderful, romantic evening for the two of you and once you get the ring, you will be so happy. I know its hard, but just try not to stress about it. I personally think its a good idea he is keeping the ring at his work (especially if you are known to snoop!) Be excited about the surprise!
Post # 4
I have been there and no matter what you can’t do anything but wait!
Do you really want to snoop (I am a snooper too! but I asked myself that question and the answer was NO) so I didn’t and I am glad I didn’t!
Have fun – it will be worth the wait when it comes!!!!
Post # 5
You just sit pretty and wait! Agonizing isn’t it!?!?
Post # 6
So funny… I keep coming back to this board and reading such similar stories over and over again! It cracks me up that there are so many couples where the guy has the ring and knows the girl KNOWS about the ring and he still won’t give it up. If my guy had the ring (I believe he’s still shopping) and I knew he had the ring and HE knew I knew he had the ring…. I just couldn’t wait for it. Boys are just mean 🙂
Post # 7
My FI pretented he hadn’t gotten the ring – when in fact he had – because we designed it together. He did me a huge service – I would have been FREAKIN OUT if I had known.
Just take a breath… You know it’s going to happen now, so keep yourself busy and be happy!!!
Post # 8
You are stronger than me! I snooped! I’ve known the ring has been at the jewelry store for the last two weeks, but apparently this whole waiting thing has made me lose my mind. I peeked in his top drawer of his desk and found appraisal papers for his grandmother’s ring. It didn’t have a picture, but it was a pretty good description. It sounds way more amazing than I ever imagined! And now I finally understand why he’s been so distant whenever I talked about what type of ring I’d like. I know it should be done at the jewelry store today, but he’ll probably wait for the weekend to give it to me. Waiting is so freaking hard!!!
Post # 9
AAhhh…congrats in advance! You just have to sit there and wait, let him do it on his own! You never know he could have a pretty sweet proposal and you don’t want to mess that up! You know its coming though so just be patient!
Post # 10
Drink a lot of chamomile tea to relax and try to wait – I know, it’s hard! But yes, congratulations in advance 😉
Post # 11
Ooh! The excitement! This was the BEST time…honestly it was. I was expecting him to ask all the time, but he was trying to play it off like he didn’t have the ring yet. I thought he didn’t have it either, so I kept dragging him to different jewelers who carried the ring…too funny looking back now.
Don’t snoop. Don’t stress. Just know that it’s coming. SO VERY EXCITING!
Post # 12
How exciting!!! Sit back and relax and enjoy this time!!! Watch sappy funny movies cook a great and fun dinner, make a pie, go running, lol anything to take your mind off of it, but it seems that it’s coming so good luck!!
Post # 13
At least you know it is in the house (or the office)! My boyfriend tells me this morning that he has already got the ring! He joked that he had to get it before he got a pay rise in October, because then it would be more expensive because it is meant to be 3 months salary! Im pretty sure it is at his parents house, we live in an appartment, and there really isnt anywhere he could hide it here without me finding it!
I think taking the advice of just trying to forget about it is definately very handy! Actually doing that is much more difficult! But that is what Weddingbee is for!!!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Wait patiently. 🙂
I know that’s hard, but you gotta do it. I had to wait 4 months. It was pure agony. lol
Post # 15
My girlfriend waited 8 MONTHS for her guy to propose knowing the ring was in the house…how horrible is that??? Needless to say I had to deal with a pretty hefty freak-out at about month 5.
I really don’t have any advice considering I’m waiting (we went ring shopping 3 months ago and it’s making me nuts). Just think about how spectacular it’s going to be when he pulls out that ring!!
Post # 16
some of you woman have WAY too much patience!!!!!! when my ring was ready the then BF was told to get his ass down there now (2 days before christmas) and get me my ring and i had that baby on my finger within 2mins of me walking thru the door
way too much patience!