Your profile indicates that you are from Urbana – there are TONS of churches there that are simply “christian” churches and/or protestant. You can find someone to marry you. If not with a private church, you can probably find an officiant connected with UofI.
However- before you jump the gun about where you will get married, it sounds like you two need to have a conversation about what part *religion* will play in your lives….
– will you go to church? If yes, which one?
– if you have future children together, what *religious* upbringing will they be exposed to? How will you guide them through the differences between the church their siblings attend, and the church they attend (If your children are not raised Catholic) – are the 2 of you on the same page with this?
-WHY do you want to be married in a church, if you won’t attend regularly and be members.
– IF your hubs wants to be married in the CATHOLIC church, you may want to think about converting and becoming Catholic.
– Know that if you do *attend* the Catholic church, but you yourself do not convert, you won’t be able to share in some of the sacarments of that religion with your husband.
– YES, some extremely religious Catholics will not recognize subsequent marriages. That is their belief system. You don’t have to like it, but you may have to deal with it. You won’t be able to change their mind….. is that something you will be OK with?
An anullment in the catholic church is very different than a “legal” annullment. mimi123 has it right when she says that Catholics have finally got on board that due to the rising divorce rate…. if they don’t become more liberal with annullments, their members will leave. So, you MAY have grounds for a RELIGIOUS annullment (which is basically like saying your marriage was not doing “God’s work”, so the Church doesn’t recognize it as forever binding….. NOT that your marriage “never existed”.). It’s simply not recognized by the Catholic Church as a marriage, which opens the door for you to *re-marry* in the Catholic Church – as long as you meet all their other criteria.
It’s tough to reconcile relgious issues with legal issues and to top it all off with what the “norm” is in society. Especially when some of the doctorine will vary based on geographical diocesan practice.
My advice to you would be the same as my advice about ANYthing that has to do with a couple. Make sure you and hubs have had the *tough* conversations. Make sure you are either on the same page or, at the very least, that you both understand and can appreciate the POV of the other so that you can support the behaviors that stem from the beliefs you each have.