Post # 1
Long history of not knowing when or if engagement was coming. 3 months ago looked at rings. Over the last 2 weeks he’s really stepped up the game – making large joint purchases, mysteriously saying soon and that his soon matches mine, joked about the ring being on back order and then laughing hysterically about the look of horror on my face. Blah blah blah. Many other examples. (And yes, I am PMSing and my complaint is stupid). I had a dream last night that his mom (his parents are driving in today) Showed up and handed him a ring box and told me she picked It up for him. During a very loud dinner he pulled me aside and mumbled something and gave me the ring. It had black diamonds and a huge hunk of lucite (pencil eraser sized which he said was called a Magnidiamond because the lucite magnified the tiny black center stone. I thought this was hilarious and told him about the dream over breakfast. He looked irritated and didn’t say a word. When I asked why so quiet he grumpily told me I’d pushed the engagement back 3 weeks by mentioning a ring. WTF? first I’ve heard I wasn’t to mention a ring – especially one from a dream. And no, it’s not like he’s insecure about the diamond. He has my grandmothers 2 carat oval and can easily cover the elaborate setting so nothing to have a complex about there.
Just venting. Console me with your SO’s weirdness.
Post # 3
@SomedaymrsWDS: What a wierdo! On the bright side, I think a LOT of guys act bizarrely around ring time. Mine literally wouldn’t even say the word “proposal” or “engagement”!
Also, that dream is GREAT.
Post # 4
He’s probably not a morning person. When you mentioned the ring (even in a dream), he snapped.
I drove my FI a bit crazy with ring talk. I was basically banned from talking about it, and I 100% knew he wanted to marry me… I just wouldn’t shut up about it. That drives guys mental.
I’d say that if it doesn’t happen this month then you should worry a bit. It sounds like he’s planning some sort of holiday proposal.
He’s trying to throw you off but I don’t think it’s in a mean way. I would really just shut up about it until January if it doesn’t happen.
It’s not like he is refusing to talk about ever getting married or something. I think you’re on the same page re: it happening soon.
Post # 5
@BrandNewBride: True! I don’t think he’s ever mentioned the words engagement, proposal or ring. He’ll say wedding. He’ll say how he can’t wait to fall asleep holding me every night (only every other week now – no living together till we’re married. young-ish children). He will talk about vacations next year, next decade and retirement. We’re going Monday to open joint checking and savings accounts. But the whole engagement thing is like a little black hole in his head. I think he’d elope next weekend. Marriage isn’t a problem. Just engagement. Aaarrrggghhh!
Post # 6
@canarydiamond: I waited until he’d had his coffee!!!! Hahaha! Well, he’s said Christmas proposals are cliche. December is great, January I’ll have to fight off being pissy, after Valentines Day my feelings will be hurt based on our “timeline” (which he has probably forgotten.)