Post # 1
I’m really, really bummed right now. I spent MONTHS picking out my wedding accessories (gorgeous custom made pieces), as I always wanted a simple wedding dress with bold, beautiful accessories.
Then I wanted to show my FI an email. Well, gmail puts your most recent emails in the righthand column..which happened to be close up pictures of my necklace, that I emailed to my MOH.
Then he quickly covers the pictures with his hand and says “I didn’t see anything.” Well, obviously he did. Because he covered the pictures.
Now I feel like I need to change my necklace. It’s SO unique and wonderful…but I want EVERYTHING to be a surprise when I walk down the aisle. And now it won’t be.
And unfortunately, he’s not like a regular guy who would forget. He’s a graphic designer, very artsy, very detail oriented….with a photographic memory. I just feel like with everything he sees, that “wow” moment of me walking down the aisle is being taken away.
Sigh. I feel like an idiot not realising that was in the column of my email! GRRRRR!
Post # 3
Does he know it was the one you were planning to wear? Did you tell him somehow afterwards? Because if not, he may just think it is an option you are considering.
Post # 4
I think you’re putting too much importance on this. He hasn’t seen the whole ensemble put together, on you, and that makes a huge difference. Think of how different your gown looked on you versus on the hanger, or in the catalog?
Why cheat yourself out of wearing a necklace you put so much effort into and are so excited about wearing? It seems like a waste to not wear it because you’re hung up on him having seen a picture of it.
Post # 5
I honestly don’t think it’s big of deal, it sounds like he saw one quick glance of it. Also he just saw the necklace not the whole effect with your dress, hair done, makeup on. Also since these aare custom peices which I’m assuming cost quite a bit wouldn’t be a unnecessary waste of money?
Post # 6
I say don’t change it. I don’t think having seen the necklace will diminish the impact of seeing the entire package on your wedding day. It’s unlikely that your necklace is the first thing he’s going to look at. 🙂
Post # 7
If your wedding date is correct, you’ve still got a year to go. I don’t think many people would remember a necklace that well in a year. Regardless, it’s not as if he saw the whole package (dress, jewelry, shoes) together, and that will give it a completely different look. The “wow” moment will still be there.
Post # 8
He will still be wow-ed. Your necklace is only one piece of your beauty ‘puzzle’ that day. And when you are walking down the aisle he probably wouldn’t be concentrated on the necklace. If you love it keep it. It will be okay!
Post # 9
No big deal. Even if he’s got a photographic memory, the necklace will look completely different when its with an ensemble, on YOU, walking down the aisle.
My FI accidently saw a picture of my dress when we were looking at pics of the dog on my cell phone- I completely forgot the pics were there. We were both upset (he doesn’t want to know anything about what I’m wearing) but we talked it over and agreed that he’ll forget and it will look totally different on me anyway. Your wedding is next summer, that’s a lot of time to blur memories- don’t stress about it.
Post # 10
At least it wasn’t your dress
Post # 11
If he just saw it now he probably will forget about it at least a little and he probably does want to forget it. If he does remember it, it was only a picture and I’m sure it looks much better in person. It is possible he just saw that it was a necklace and quick covered it before he could really get a good look at it. I agree with pps that it is just one piece of the puzzle. If I were you I’d still wear it. If he knew exactly what the necklace looks like the day of he will still have that wow moment… I promise.
Post # 12
Don’t change it. The chances he will even remember it are slim 🙂 And he hasn’t seen the whole outfit with the dress and other accessories, etc., so I say don’t let it stress you out!
Post # 13
He’s not going to be thinking “I’ve seen that necklace before” as you’re walking down the aisle.
Post # 14
I think you are overreacting, he hasn’t seen the whole look put together and it’s not like he got a really extended detailed inspection of the jewellery. You shouldn’t let this get to you because really, he will be wowed by you no matter what when you walk down the aisle!
Post # 15
@TwoCityBride: Well, the necklace was done by an Etsy seller….it was $115. It’s so gorgeous that I’m sure I could sell it :/
Post # 16
dont change it, you love it, it would be so silly to not wear it, its really no big deal. It will be so much different once you are wearing it and you will have that wow factor! It would be sill to change it just becuase he saw a picture…. I think its fine, not like he saw your dress.
My fi knew what my necklase was going to be b/c it was a family piece and he had seen it before, he also knew my veil since that was my something borrowed and he even saw my blue shoes, but it was so different once they were all together and he never saw my dress!!!