(Closed) He keeps changing the ring budget…now there is no budget.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
434 posts
Helper bee

Thats really strange to go fromone budget to nothing at all, i mean my SO and i have talked about budgets and i think at first ours was unrealistic so we went to some jewlers and realised that the kind of rings we liked were no where nearas much as we thought it would be.

Maybe hes just confused about how much he needs to spend ands hes abit thrown off and finding it all abit dawnting?

Did he say why no budget?

Post # 4
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3423 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@musician32992:  What the hell is wrong with him? “He said if I want a ring (even a wedding band), I can buy myself one” and yeah, while you are out buying yourself a ring (damn shame) maybe you should shop around for a new SO

The three months salary thing is bogus. My rule was one months rent, which is basically how much all my dream rings cost…or at the very least under 2Gs. If he isn’t willing to spend one months rent on something that will symbolize our commitment to eachother, then HE’s the one that has a problem.

I mean, Come one. the sh*t we do for these men!

Nah, I didn’t like that at all

Post # 5
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9625 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@musician32992:   Wow, that seems a little harsh on his part.  Did you two have a fight?  What did he mean by you “technically” already have a ring?  So sorry you’re having to deal with this.  Of course, look at it this way, once you’re married his money is your money and you can get yourself a fabulous ring.  🙂

Post # 7
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@musician32992:  Oh wow.. if you already have one then why are you getting a new one.. This doesn’t make sense to me…

Post # 8
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6750 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  +1

What???  What do you mean, OP, when you say you already have a ring.  And you have to buy yourself your own wedding band?  Where did this conversation about a ring budget break down?

Post # 9
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1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@musician32992:  If a ring is important to you and he knows that, you might really want to think about this.  is there maybe some sort of financial issue in his life you don’t know about?  It’s not about being materialistic, it’s the way he’s going about this.  

Post # 11
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3423 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@musician32992:  Nah. A promise ring is a PROMISE that you will engaged…hence the E-ring.

Nah….there is some F*ckery going around here and I don’t like it.

Post # 13
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340 posts
Helper bee

Honestly, who cares if it is $7,000 or $100… it is the symbolism. He should be picking out a ring and proposing like a man that wants to marry a woman. That is really sad and I think you should really look at the whole picture and see if there are any other red flags. If he makes 7k in 3 months he can handle at least something little.

Post # 14
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6750 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@musician32992:  Ok, maybe if he’s a little fed up with the wedding talk, you should back off for a bit and address this again in about 2 weeks to a month.  See what he says at that point.  Tell him that the ring is very important to you, that the promise ring is not an engagement ring, and that if he wants to discuss it again, you’d like to discuss.  Also be understandable that the 3 months rule doesn’t really apply to everyone.  The budget should be something he’s comfortable with and the ring should be something you love to have. 

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