He keeps saying no…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Well it is his wedding too. But for all that, I think there ought to be some room for compromise. However, if you can’t agree on some of the basic things about the wedding then you really need to sit down and talk calmly about why your views are so different. If your wedding planning is one long argument then it doesn’t make for a good foundation for married life.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

At least he’s willing to do them! I don’t want e-pics at all. Fortuneatly neither does my FI.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Bunni0929:   You have a good reason for doing the photos out of doors and yet he disagrees – I wonder if this is habitual or if he ever compromises when something is important to you?  If you keep getting your wishes shot down, that will wear you out.  

The wedding ceremony generally reflects the people getting married – it is a great time to talk about what you both want and to find middle ground.  It is a window into how you two deal with decision making.  🙂   

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Bunni0929:  It’s good that your FI understands that you want to walk down the aisle and that he is no longer set on your going to the courthouse to get married. I think that every bride who wants to have that type of experience should be able to have it.

As for engagement pictures — this is something that some people could never imagine NOT having, whereas some other people find these types of photoshoots to be self-indulgent, expensive, and frivolous.

When my DH and I were engaged, I had no idea that most couples have these amazing, photojournalistic photo shoots done that depict their love stories. I actually had not ever seen that before.  My then-FI/now-DH and I went to a studio to have a formal couple’s portrait taken. We actually chose two poses that we love.

However, once I saw all of these amazing e-pics on WB (and discovered once I joined FB a few years ago that other people do these same types of beautiful, editorial, photojournalistic shoots during their pregnancies and following the birth of their babies), I suddenly developed a strong desire for my DH and I to have something like that, too. When I’ve discussed this idea with my husband, however, he has been less than enthusiastic about the concept, lol. He doesn’t really think it’s necessary.

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