(Closed) He left me :(

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I’m sorry to hear about this.  I haven’t exactly experienced this, but I want to tell you it will be okay.  If you were both fighting all the time, and deep down you knew it wasn’t any good, then it has to be for the best.  Every door closes for another to open. 🙂 

Post # 4
Member
8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@inlove_be:  *HUGS*  I know it hurts, but you’re living abroad.  This should be the perfect time to be single and carve out your own adventures in life.  In just a little bit, you’ll realize that this break up is a blessing in disguise.  Go out and live a little, it’ll make the time fly by.

Post # 5
Member
3508 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You said that even if he came back to you, you don’t think you could trust him, if this is true then let it go. Trust me I know how extremly hard this is. I, myself was in a very long relationship in which I pushed for an engagement and because of the trust issues we fell apart and I was heartbroken but I promise you it does get better. You e-mailed him your good-bye and leave it at that. Break all ties with him because if you don’t you will go back and it will be a never ending cycle, which is unhealthly. Check out my blog where I have an entry about this exact subject and where I go into detail about my realationship and how hard it was for me, maybe it’ll help,

 

 

 

http://eecuadrado.blogspot.com/2013/05/when-is-comfortable-too-comfortable.html

 

 

 

If you need to talk message me. I know how hard it is. Trust me.

 

 

 

-Eb

 

Post # 6
Member
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@inlove_be:  I’m so sorry 🙁 it sounds like you KNOW that this is for the best. I know that doesn’t exactly make it easy now though. My best advice would be to fake it til you make it. Tell yourself you’re okay, go out, see your friends, do fun things, distract yourself. You’ll find eventually that you’re not PRETENDING to be happy.. you are. It WILL feel better over time! Good luck, babe!

Post # 7
Member
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Long distances are hard. I did one with my fiance. 12 hours apart, he was in Canada and I was in the states. We broke up 3 times, including right before we got engaged because I couldn’t handle the distance anymore. The other 2 times was because he was afraid of the commitment. 

I give anyone who is willing to try long distance props, no one else understands unless you’ve been in one. Seeing as how it just happened don’t rush yourself to get over it. Take some time to be sad and wallow, it’s definitely needed. 

You also have an entire community here. It’s one of the nice things about the bee.

Post # 8
Member
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@LMD +1

@inlove_be HUGS! I know this is hard for you, but just take everything one day at a time and give yourself time to heal. Relationships shouldn’t be that hard, when you have something better to compare this to you will actually be relieved it ended when it did.   

Post # 9
Member
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You said you had good reason not to trust him. Is someone you can’t bring yourself to trust (again?) the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Let yourself hurt, let yourself cry it out. It’s not good to bottle that stuff up. You’ll move on faster than you think but I know that in the moment, it feels like an emotional punch to the stomach.

 

Post # 10
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

break ups are never easy, but every day will get easier. I highly suggest cutting all communication – i.e., remove from phone/facebook/etc.  It’s much easier to move on when you don’t have constant access to communication with this person.  Stay strong, you’ll be better off in the long run.  You can’t find the right guy when you’re in a relationship with the wrong one!

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