Post # 1
FI and I are in a long distance relationship (I live in Toronto, Ontario, and he lives in Vermont). He was here for the weekend, and he left a couple of hours ago. I have been on the couch, eating ice cream and watching bad tv since then. Do any of you long-distance-brides have tips for how to get over the sadness once your visits are over?
Post # 3
Try to plan an activity with your friends immediately following your FI’s departure. In a past relationship, I used to schedule girl’s nights on the evening that my bf left. That way, when he was out the door, as much as I missed him, I knew I had to get ready to hang out with the girls. Having something planned already will give you less time to be upset when he leave.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
Mr. Cupcake and I were long-distance for the first two years of our relationship; we were lucky that we got to see each other pretty much every weekend, but I still cried every Sunday night when we said goodbye! What made it all better for me was keeping up with friends and making plans during the week to keep me occupied. After work on weeknights I’d have dinner with friends or run errands or work on projects around my apartment. It made Monday-Friday go much faster to have lots going on, plus then my weekends would be totally free to spend time with him because I would get so much done during the week!
Post # 5
I’ve been in an LDR for 2.5 years and whenever we leave each other I always allow myself a day or two to just be bummed…I cry, I feel sorry for myself, and I eat a lot of chips. And then I start planning the next time we’ll see each other and start counting down the days.
Post # 6
That’s really great advice! I guess the only problem is the fact that I have distanced myself a bit from my social circle. It’s really hard for me to gather the energy to actually go out! I find it quite difficult to figure out where I fit in…my single friends want to do things that no longer interest me, and my coupled friends make me sad because I envy the life that they have with their partner. I guess I’m my own worst enemy 😛
Post # 7
I had a probably maladaptive mechanism, but I threw myself into work. When fiance left, I’d go to the office and immerse myself in project work. By the time he moved here, I was completely over being a workaholic!
Post # 8
I feel you 100%! My FI is in NYC and I am in Indiana AND we have a child in common who is with me. My time is spent explaining "how daddy had to ride the airplane again". But its a good excuse to eat popcorn, ice cream, and wash it down with extra chocolate milk. We video chat regularly and it helps a little…
Post # 9
My FI and I are the opposite of long distance, we live together, yet he travels CONSTANTLY for his work (and Internationally too, so we can hardly have phone calls). I get really bummed when he leaves too, especially now that we JUST move to NEPA and I don’t know anyone here to hang out with when he’s gone. I feel in complete isolation, but I’m sooooo grateful that we are together and we have a beautiful home and kitties 🙂