- 6 years ago
@Misstiff: Why, I have no idea. That would be VERY annoying, and I definitely think you have grounds to bring it back up again. Communication is key! You definitely sound a wee bit heated, so maybe try to cool down over the next few days and ask him again what she looks like, and if he sticks to his story inform him that you Googled her. Or maybe, what I would do, and try to find her on FB and be like “Is this the Gillian you’re friends with?? FB keeps suggesting her to be my friend. She looks nothing like I remember you saying.” and use this as an opportunity to bring it back up.
So, you are picking up on the vibe that he has a crush on her?
If you think this is true.. i guess you are the only one who can determine what you should do about it.
He shouldn’t have lied, but he probably down played how she looked to save you jealousy.
If he talks about her that often, then she is on his mind that often. It could either be that he has a crush on her.. or just that they are involved a lot at work. Could be either way. Only you know your fiance that well to determine that.
and only he knows why he is lying about it.
@ChuckNorris: He’s never given me any reason to not trust him, BUT this is the first time I have caught him in a bold face lie, and if he could lie about something like this then what makes me not think he’s not lied to me about other things! You’re right I am pretty peeved right now, and of all days Mother’s Day! 🙁
Do you think she is attractive?
..you’re sure its her? A lot of people come up when you google my name and its an uncommon one.
FutureMrsDrPeter said it well, “If he talks about her that often, then she is on his mind that often.” I dunno, I know a lot of seemingly honest men who have done bad things. I’m not trying to scare you or anything, but it will escalate out of control if you bring it up when you’re peeved, you know?? Keep it cool and brush it off best you can just even for one day. Everything is better after a night of sleep… You know??
Okay I’m confused….what did he lie about?
I would find it weird if my Fiance didn’t talk about his coworkers……he has some attractive women that work with him and he’s gone out with them after work (in a group)….but I was never jealous or worried about it…..
@asscherlover: it’s her, her Facebook, LinkedIn and business profile (for there work) all matched! She’s cute, (mind you I’m not bad looking either) but she comes from money and he’s very money driven. We have been together for 4 1/2 years and I’m not sure why I’ve been thinking these bad things, but then to caught him in a lie just makes it even worse! He stopped talking about her for 4 months
How different was his version form the one you found on the internet? Also keep in mind that woman and men view and judge people differently. Also, he may also be hiding his true opinion of how he thinks she look in an effort to not offend or worry you.
One more thing..
Have you ever felt this way before, since you have been with him for 4 1/2 years? How long has he worked there? Have you ever been to his work? Has he ever asked you to? Has she been there long?
My last piece of advice, after reading another post. I am intimidated by girls I don’t know, but once I get to know them I feel better. Maybe getting to know her at a company function would be a good idea.
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