He lied to me and has now moved on. I'm devastated.

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

twu123:  I’m sorry you’re going through this. He shouldn’t have lied to you. You’re better off though. Be thankful you’re not with that loser. You deserve happiness, but you have to want it. Dwelling on the past wont help you heal.

Post # 3
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

twu123:  The pain you are feeling now is likely saving you from greater pain if you had stayed with him.

Post # 4
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

This is one of those situations where it hurts really, incredibly bad right now… but 6 months down the road you will look back and be grateful you aren’t with this guy.

He seems like the type of person who is all about himself, which is why he strung you along.  Now he is with someone else… and eventually he will do the same to her.  

I say, don’t even bother looking at the facebook pictures or talking to his manager.  Cut all ties and start the healing process.  I am sure you don’t believe it right now BUT something better is around the corner. 

Post # 6
5031 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

twu123:  I remember this story! So we are getting a follow up. I’m sorry it’s not the ending to your story that you wanted, but I agree with other PPs and it’s lucky you found out now. I did something similar where I did not listen to my gut and I actually married the guy. Big mistake! We need to learn to listen to that little voice inside. Please take care, you deserve better than being strung along.

Post # 7
187 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t normally do this but this post CAN’T BE REAL. In this post you say you just came out of a 21 year marriage and are in your 40’s, but in an older post about a year ago you say you’re 20?!

Post # 8
1619 posts
Bumble bee

Please give yourself time to process this.  I’d even suggest that you learn to be OK and happy alone before you make any decisions regarding your ex wanting another chance.  It’s tempting to jump into the arms of someone when you’ve been hurt, just remember that your Ex is an ex for a reason. 

Post # 9
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

akazan:  Saw that too. Either the old post is fake, this one is fake, or all of them are fake.

Post # 10
187 posts
Blushing bee


SoccerBee86:  Ya so weird. In one of the other posts she also mentions being young and then dealing with a teenage son or something too, which would lead me to believe she had her son at 13? Who knows.

Post # 11
1491 posts
Bumble bee

So which is the real story?  I read this post and her very first post and my little ole head is spinning!

Post # 12
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

I think SHE lied to US. Time for us to move on.

Post # 14
2827 posts
Sugar bee

This is not the first time he lied to you. This is the first time you found out.

Stop trying to figure out why he did what he did. It doesnt matter. You will drive yourself crazy. Get out of his head and stay in your own.

Cut contact. Stop looking at his facebook. It is hard (I have been there) but you will get over it but you have to go through the process and it starts with separating yourself from his life.

You can do this.  It is hard. It will hurt. But you will get past it.

Post # 15
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You are better off without him. I was just talking to someone of similar age and situation and telling them “give it time; your life is not over; you are not old; let love happen on God’s timeline.” And Tina Knowles (Beyonce’s Mom) just gave a keynote speech about her experience finding her new self and then finding love later in life. You should check it out. Maybe it will encourage you.

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