- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I understand that he is stressed but I think that yelling at your SO is never OK. I think that maybe the two of you should consider counseling to figure out how to communicate with eachother without one feeling like they are in danger.
I think yelling happens. But I’m not ok with screaming in my face. It scared the sh** out of me.
I’m sorry you’re going through this with your FI. I do have to say, it doesn’t sound to me like you ‘pushed him’, if all you were trying to do was tell him to calm down. People forget to do things sometimes, that’s life. While I understand that it seems you are both going through a stressful time in your lives, he absolutely should not have screamed at you like that, and owes you an apology. I really, really hope that you can trust in your heart of hearts that he would never hit you.
I think you need to have a talk with him about communication. He needs to know that screaming and yelling at you is not only unhealthy for the relationship, but is also not the way to get things done. A calm, ‘Honey, can you please help me with this?’ is a lot better than getting angry and creating a blowup over it.
I wish you both the best of luck at this stressful time, and hope you can reach some common ground about how he handles his anger towards you.
Thank you both. I agree completely. I know know he wouldn’t hit me. (He knows I dealt with some scary anger management problems with my daddy). I usually just not say anything when he gets mad so that he calms down but yesterday I was grumpy and getting so aggrivated
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