- 4 years ago
Friday was a very strange day for me! For those of you who haven’t kept up with my posts, here is a little background info:
FI (I get to call him that now!) was really big into the surprise aspect of the proposal. He knew however that I would need some kind of timeline since I knew he had the ring and I did not want to go crazy. So he gave me until the end of August as a proposal timeline. Then one day I thought he was going to do it, and he didn’t, and I expressed my disappointment and started to get a little depressed. Then he told me it would be before I go to Disneyland next week. This meant that it basically had to happen this weekend. Fast forward to Friday, I talked to him and ask him when I should go get my nails done…I was so excited, and he seemed a bit down that he had lost the surprise factor. I felt bad and then decided that it was silly that he had to do it when I expected it. So I told him I want him to wait until the time is right, and it doesn’t even have to be in August. I almost immediately regretted the last part and cringed when I thought about him waiting until like November or something!
I thought we had a very good conversation and I was feeling pretty happy and proud of myself and couldn’t wait to go home and see him. We talked about going to our favorite bar for dinner (they actually have good food). At the last minute when I left work he told me he would just meet me up there. I was a little put off by this because I’d rather take one car and go together, and I needed to go home and change first. But, no big deal really. So I change and leave the house, and all of a sudden he texts me that there is some kind of HS reunion there and they are closing it down for the night and that he wants to go to some other bar. The whole point for me was going someplace with good food, and the second place was a place he was notorious for getting wayyy too drunk at, and the food there is not good at all. I was pretty irritated, and I don’t like chasing him around town. I got to the bar and sat down next to him, hoping he would sense my annoyance, and he was on the phone and walked out. I was even more irritated then. He seemed to be acting like a typical male all of a sudden, this was NOT characteristic of him. Then some food was presented to me, which I did not order. This annoyed me even more, he took the liberty of ordering my food, something that I’ve never had in a place where I generally don’t want to eat food…this place is pretty divey.
He asked me what was wrong and I asked him if he could come outside to talk. I told him how annoyed I was with everything. Frankly I think I was just as annoyed with myself from telling him it didn’t even have to be in August. In my mind I felt like maybe he was celebrating that fact and decided instead of a romantic night we would just be having a night out with me tagging along like I’m one of the guys.
We go back in and sit down, he tries to put me at the bar but I demanded that we sit at a table because I was still not feeling very cheery. Then he started on about how we weren’t communicating well, and I agreed. I felt so distant from him. All of a sudden he motions to the bartender and she walks up with a red jello shot topped with strawberries, whipped cream and my RING sitting on top.
NEEDLESS TO SAY…I was SURPRISED! He sure did get that part down. I was too happy to be mad at him anymore, but that was SO MEAN!!!! Like I said I am not mad about any of it…really, he is a big time jokester and loves to trick me so I should have expected somethign like this. He said he set it all up and was TRYING to make me fight with him and do things that would upset me just to play on the surprise factor. So, I did not get the most romantic proposal, but I DID get the ring when I wanted it (before Disneyland!) and he got his surprise 🙂 Looking back it is kind of cute even though at the time I thought he was such a brat for proposing to me that way. I love him and I want to marry him and we are engaged now and that’s the best part, no matter how it happened!!!