Post # 1
So my birthday was last month and ever since I have been majorly depressed over waiting. We had a very tearful argument/ discussion a couple of days prior to my actual birthday that resulted in me confessing how much I was struggling with the reasons we were waiting. I didn’t really leave that conversation feeling any better or more resovled. Yesterday he came home with some expensive equipment we can both use that he got for a “bargain.” I assumed he still spent a lot of money so while I was happy with the item, I couldn’t hide the disappointment (you know the thoughts, “if he can spend money on this why can’t he propose? Especially when I’ve told him repeatedly, I don’t care about a ring”)
He asked me what was wrong and I tried to change the subject as I had been doing the past few weeks when he’s asked, but he brought it out of me. He kept saying, “of course I want to marry you but I thought we had a plan. I don’t want to do it tomorrow!” This I didn’t understand in my head because I wasn’t asking to get married this week or even this next year! He also kept mentioning how he couldn’t afford a ring. I again told him the ring is just a symbol and that I didn’t care. We weren’t getting anywhere so I said I was ok and that we’d just readdress next year and I got up and went to the bathroom.
When I came back out he was reading something on his phone and looked up at me with puppy dog eyes. I asked him what his deal was. He waived his phone and said, “OK, according to this, the average engagement lasts between 13-18 months…” I just nodded in disbelief, I mean really? How could he not realize that. All his friends get engaged and then married a year or so later… He dropped to one knee and started to ask me but I cut him off because I didn’t want him to propose just to appease me! But he professed his love for me and asked me again if I was 100% comfortable not having a ring right now. Then he asked me to marry him! He was in his underwear and I was in sweat pants and a tank with our dog at our feet begging for a treat. He even had to remind me to say yes. Then he said, “I would have done this weeks ago if I had known.” Silly boys.
Anyone else have a low key and/or ringless proposal? I’ve read quite a few similar stories on here. After the elation started to wear down I couldn’t decide how I felt. I mean a ring definitely makes it seem more real but he is my FIANCE now! And thats one more step towards forever! 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: Royal Park Hotel
My husband proposed to me on a Thursday night, on the couch, over pizza. He had a ring though. It was fairly low key. I didn’t mind. It was very much to our style.
I’m sorry you might be bummed but you’ll have more control of how your wedding will go down and the proposal won’t seem so important
Post # 3
Awwwww… sounds like a good story 🙂 especially if it explains his personality! Congratulations!! Are you two going to go pick out the ring together? Or are you going to let him surprise you?
Post # 4
Mine was pretty much the same. No ring in my dining room, after months of saying he had a ring and was going to propose. Sadly, it was very disappointing and just one of many huge let downs i
n our relationship. I wish I would have opened my eyes and realized how little effort he put into our relationship rather then wanting to be married so badly. That’s just my story, I’m sure your fiance loves you very much! Congrats! Now go get to picking out your ring!
Post # 5
Cute story! Congrats!
I’d take that proposal right now although…I think techincally I’m engaged, at least that’s what people have been saying. SO and I plan to get married next year, no date set but thats the plan so my mom says that’s engaged. I told her he hasn’t officially asked and I dont see a ring… so until one or both happens.. we are not engaged! lol
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
I had a ring but mine was pretty lowkey – he met me while i was on a lunch break at work (outside the police station and magistrates court…romantic!! LOL!) and proposed over a takeaway cup of Costa coffee. wouldnt have had it any other way 🙂
Post # 7
ezasabc123: That’s sweet and very heartfelt. I love it!
My FI proposed over messy BBQ and beer at this “joint” from Guy Fieri’s DD&D we went to in Nashville. He had the ring in pocket our entire trip and was just waiting until it felt right. Just us in the restaurant, sawdust on the floor and BBQ sauce under my fingernails lol. It was perfect!
Post # 8
ezasabc123: Congratualtions. My husband and I decided together when we were in Asheville for a get away. We just looked at a calendar and picked a date, and I said, well, I guess we’re engaged. LOL, we have both been married before an have kids and well, it had to be a mutual decision, not a surprise. I got my ring like 3 months later. We designed it together.
Post # 9
My guy woke me up with a proposal at 6:30am on a Tuesday in his boxers, and then he went to work. There was a ring though.
Post # 10
My husband proposed to me on a random wednesday evening while we were watching TV. There were no grand gestures or epic monologues, just basically and exchange of the ring box (and the ring inside).
It suited us perfectly. I will admit that I was somewhat jealous of others grand and intricate proposal stories but as time has gone on I am quite happy that our story is our own.
Post # 11
ezasabc123: CONGRATS!!! I got proposed to on the way home from running errands. In the car. I was driving. Lol!! Happily married now!!
Post # 12
Derp: haha thats sweet and pizza is my favorite food so I’d be ALL about that! I was only bummed when I thought for an instance that I may have taken the joy of planning a proposal away from him but he’s assured me he’s happy so I am back to being over the moon.
damarajade: I think so but really its probably going to be me sending him a bunch of rings I’m interested in and him picking from them lol
robynrox47: I know how you feel thats what the disconnect was. In his eyes we were “engaged” because we were going to get married but I needed a formal committment from him so he oblidged.
weird_bunny: BurlapnLace: so cute! I love the “just me and him” proposals. It’s real life! We get used to seeing these elaborate proposals (which ARE absolutely lovely) but in reality I think these everyday proposals are just as romantic because they are special and unique to the couple. And it feels like the whole world stops for a second then when you come back to reality, everything is the same except now you have a promise to spend your life with your (hopefully) best friend!
Mrs.Sawyertobe: How soon after you guys made “the decision” did you annouce your engagement to others?<br />
Post # 13
ezasabc123: Well, we were planning to wait until I had the ring, but his ex-wife announced her engagement, so we ended up have to tell sooner than we had planned, because we already had a date with a venue and we didn’t want her to pick our date. We worried for nothing. She ended up not getting married. I think we waited about a month.
Post # 14
ezasabc123: Congratulations on your engagement!
My proposal was pretty low-key, too. My DH and I went to pick out a ring together because he didn’t want to pick it out on his own. The plan was to get the ring and then he would pick a time later to propose so that it would be a surprise. At the first appointment with the jeweler, we picked out the setting and stone. Then we had to go back (it was about a 2 hour trip, one-way, from where we lived at the time) to pick it up once it was ready.
A week or so later, we went back to the jeweler and picked up the ring. On the way out of the building, in the stairwell (complete with peeling, industrial-gray paint and the echoes of footsteps on the floors above us), he got down on one knee and told me he couldn’t wait for later. He asked me to marry him and said it would make him the happiest man in the world if I said yes. And of course, I did!
Very low-key. Very unexpected, in its own way. Not elaborate or planned or anything like that. But sweet, heartfelt, and absolutely perfect. I still get a bit choked up when I think about it.
Post # 15
I just got proposed to yesterday while out storm chasing with my now fiance!! It was low-key but totally and completely us! I wouldn’t have it any other way! 🙂