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Can i just say WTF? I dunno what is wrong with men these days... but it seems that ever since i got my sparkely sparkely i've never been hit on more!! Jeeze... maybe my happiness is infectious in a room these days.. but crap!
Geeze boys, its nice to know "i still got it" but i'm spoken for!!
I had 3 guys hit on me.. right in front of my fiance in one night. He thinks its hilarious and just sits back and laughs at it all but I think its annoying!
Anyone else having the same problem?!?!
Yup. The ring went on, and the compliments kept coming. One man even hit on me for an hour-long plane ride and then sheepishly asked me at the end, "Is that your engagement ring?" And I was like, uh-huh. That's why I've been responding in a curt way and trying to read the scintillating in-flight magazine.
usually if i get hit on it's by younger guys. i figure it's because they're not at the age where they think to look for a ring yet.
Yes, this guy at work has been uber interested in talking to me--he's fairly new. It's weird because he definitely saw my ring today and still kept going!
As long it's not from some creepster, it's a little flattering, I guess. haha. Miss Sequoia, that dude just sounded odd though!
I had that happen too! I even had one guy try to be cute about it. I told him I was married. He said "Oh you're merry? Cool." I held up my hand and dangled the sparkly in front of him. "No, I said MARRIED." He just laughed and kept going. I told him if he couldn't do better than that ring he should give up. That got him to go away!
my maid of honor has a theory.... If the guys knows hes gonna get shut down because you have a ring on your finger he might as well show off in front of his guy friends. Then he can say you turned him down cause you were engaged/married... not because he was some ugly loser. lol
lol. @tarahartman, that's a pretty good theory. It's probably the only thing that explains it.
I'm pretty sure it's not an issue of them not seeing it; I've actually had a couple of guys start out with "That's a beautiful ring you're wearing." before trying to pick me up! Definitely don't get the point.
this is a funny thread! i don't know if i can say i've been hit on any more than usual... but it certainly comes in handy when i can cut off unwanted attention on the spot just by flashing my ring! it's awesome! i have yet to meet someone who doesn't respect the ring.
@kemi I know what you mean! I use it for men...sometimes but more so for respect at work! I am young but I am a manager which most customers don't know (don't wear a badge, etc) so I flash it about so they realize I'm older/a boss hahaha
Unfortunately in my area alot of girls wear fake rings so alot of guys will still hit on you even if your ring is real.
My theory: It all comes down to .... MEN ALWAYS WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE... especially the desperate ones
classic...everyone wants something and someone that they can't have. Human nature tends to love a challenge and it happens to be interesting to men to see if they can get your attention even when you are spoken for :-) I know it can be very very annoying
That's so funny! This didn't really happen to me, but it makes me giggle. The theory definitely makes sense - you want what you can't have!!
Its Funny u sayy that me and my fiance were jsu at the store andhe kept telling me ugh that guy checked u out its like omg!!!!!!!!
SOme men
I think they view it as more of a challenge and therefore have more interest when they see the ring. How genuine that interest is may be questionable. There are so many men that really do only want what they can't have. If you actually reciprocated and showed them some interest back, they'd probably not display as much interest in you. They are bizarre creatures.
i'm married and still get hit on..men are rude!! i learn to ignore!
I usually get looks about the ring first honestly.
but to say, last week an old boyfriend (used to date him a few years ago before T) happened to be making rounds at my hospital and ran into me. He'd been calling a few times over the last months but knew I was in a serious relationship.
First thing he did before looking at my face was grab my left hand. "Damn."
That's what I got. He said "you know, you could give that thing back right? Did you get my text on new years' eve?" I was a bit taken aback, but said "I'm happy. It stays. he stays."
My xbf is too much of a nice guy honestly to really try anything past that.
Its happened to me!.. I realise tho I am more comfortable just chatting to people since my ring has been on my finger, to guys in particular. I am officially the 'wingman' for our group.... it hasnt stopped me being hit on, but guys are more like 'congratulations, another good woman off the market' and im like awww.. FH thinks its hilarious!
I actually was feeling the other way around.. as soon as I got the ring on the finger.. baam.. they all gone! I used to always get guys hitting on me in college.. once the ring is on they dont talk to me.. weird..
It actually goes both ways....Last weekend we went out and some girl practically threw herself at my husband. Hubby handled it like a champ, but I was aggrivated (at the girl, not at the hubby). I mean, really, who goes up to a guy at a bar (who has a wedding ring on, and is sitting by a girl - me-) and tells him how sexy he is and kiss him on the cheek. Not cool.
i think it has to do with being happy and giving off a confident vibe. just like theres something that women like about a man already in a relationship (sometimes just the fact that he can HAVE a stable relationship) and a woman who is glowing because shes in love and engaged!
either that or the sparkly glow from my hand makes my eyes glitter LOL
So, i wouldnt say Ive been hit on more, havent really been out or been a situation to get hit on but right after I got engaged, 2 Ex's of mine in the same day, requested my friendship on facebook and sent me messages. Of course on my relationship status it had that I was engaged. Dont know if they contacted me because I was engaged or not but it just seemed really strange.
So, i wouldnt say Ive been hit on more, havent really been out or been a situation to get hit on but right after I got engaged, 2 Ex's of mine in the same day, requested my friendship on facebook and sent me messages. Of course on my relationship status it had that I was engaged. Dont know if they contacted me because I was engaged or not but it just seemed really strange.
Yeah, I still have been getting hit on too. I was at the gas station the other day and I didn't even say much to him. I just just flashed the ring and smiled. LOL
I have this problem too... buts with FIs friends, relatives, and groomsmen!! i hope they are joking but most of them make the comments "you've already got the ring.. how about we switch up the groom?"
cheesy.. yes, funny... hopefully its just a joke
The other day, I was in my car on my way home from work, and there was a truck in front of me. There was a guy sitting in the back of the truck, right smack in the middle, and right in my line of vision! It was sooo awkward that he kept smiling and winking at me at every stoplight...I kept trying to look away, but it's surprisingly difficult to look anywhere BUT straight in front of me when I drive! (imagine that).
So finally, he mouthed "Are you married?" and I just held up my hand proudly...a little like this:
Then I sped off and finally passed the truck!
Oooh mssushi I would've punched that girl!! Wow.
Well I haven't really had that many experiances in getting hit on. But this one time (at band camp....sorry I had to do it...LOL) my friend's cousin was hitting on me. I didn't lik ethe type of attention he was giving so I brandished my ring and that set him off even more. Like the ring spraked the ignition for hitting on me even more. I went to the other side of the room for the rest of the night.
I asked my friend about that and he said that it's because of the commitment. When the girl is tied to someone else there's no commitment to call the girl back or what not. It's just a one night stand or what not. (Which definitely did not happen with me, thank god!!) It's just a really sleazy way to stay out of a full on relationship, and sadly my friend told me, that this did happen to another girl. The cousin is notorious for that. A real slime ball.
yes! I always obnoxiously run my left hand through my hair or in front of my face when that happens....
I completely know what you are talking about getting hit on! I tell me FI and he just laughs it off, but sometimes I wish he would get jealous (haha)
I have been cutting this guys hair for almost 2yrs now and he used to be flirtatious before I got the ring, and now he is just balls to the wall hell bent that he is gonna change my mind about getting married. You all know what Im talking about when I say that it is KINDA nice to still get attention from other guys when you have been with the saaaame guy for years (almost 7yrs for us)
So this guy calls, and he texts, and now he gets his hair cut every 14 DAYS...at the same time. Its kinda cute...but somedays I just wanna scream at him that no matter what he does although its amusing, that I am not leaving :)
it definitely goes both ways... even moreso when it's the guy... cuz that's his WEDDING band... bad girls LOVE going after married men... i think it's kind of a signage that he's probably a "GOOD CATCH" if he's married.
as per the OP, yes, i used to think that the e-ring would keep men away, but if anything they flock more! even when i'm out just grabbing coffee or a cocktail with a gf after work!
I haven't been out too much in the last year since I've been living at home until the wedding, but one of my guy friends told me one night that my ring is just a challenge for a guy.
I've definitely found this.
@emilymuchnikoff, that's so funny! :) I'm left handed and I tend to talk with my hands a lot, so I think sometimes ppl think I'm doing that when I'm actually just talking, lol.
Ah, but women are even worse! When my half was married the first time, he said he never got hit on UNTIL he had a wedding ring. He seems to think women find him "more worthy" with the ring on.
And, um...he is not getting a ring this time
:)
I was at a concert this past weekend, and was trying to get some water from the bar. My FI was standing to my right, and this guy to my left bumps into me on purpose and then asks if he can buy me a beer. I declined, looked at my FI and then the guy proceeds to ask the bartender over and over for some water for me. Akward!
Wow weird! I feel like ever since I got engaged I have been hit on less! Hahaha...
LMAO @ MandyW - go girl :)
Definitely hit on more since the ring, especially by old bfs and people who had peripheral interest before. It's like a last ditch effort bonanza....and its pretty hilarious, actually!
I definitely agree - it's funny how it works. I'm a firm believer in the, "Engaged girls just look happier and confident," theory, but I laughed out loud at the thought of a Last Ditch Effort Bonanza, haha, LOVE IT!
@vfoster03 exactly. this is what my crass guy friends say "she's already somebody elses problem so it will be just fun for me."
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