He refuses to have sex with condom on?!..

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Deal breaker.  If he doesn’t care about her safety and health enough to wear one, I would be looking for the exit.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@Misswhowedding:  + a million.  

No way would I stay with this guy.  Don’t let the door hitcha on the way out.  

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

“Nice knowing you.”

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@HopelessRomanticxo:  Well, this is certainly her call. There is a risk, obviously. But, it’s a risk she’ll have to decide if she’s willing to take.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@HopelessRomanticxo:  Hell no!  Beyond the possible pregnancy issue the fact that they have only known each other that long even if he gives her proof of negative STD tests, some STDs (like HIV) can not be detected until up to six months after infection. It also shows a lack of sensetivity on his part that he wouldn’t respect her wishes on this very important matter.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If he really cared about her he would put her needs above his desire to have unprotected sex. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

All I can think of is going in for a pap smear today and the nurse telling me about alllll the folks with HPV. Most guys don’t know they are carrying it, but it can lead to CERVICAL CANCER.

So…why would you even risk it?

Ew, she should not sleep with him.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Better yet, you should add a poll. I’d like to see how many bees would subject themselves to an unprotected penis of a guy who never protects his penis.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@HopelessRomanticxo:  no way. If he won’t wear one with her he hasn’t been wearing them with those before her. Not worth the risk. and even with the “deal” to wear one for a while… I don’t know it just sounds like he doesn’t respect her or care about her- if he did he would put her feelings first. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Nope nope nope. A guy like that can’t be trusted.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You didn’t say if they were exclusive or not. If they’re exclusive, I think that’s something a couple has to decide on together. I wouldn’t be with a guy who wasn’t willing to talk to me honestly about sex and compromise on something that worked for both of us.

If they were going to go without condoms, I think they should both get tested for STDs. They should also find an alternate birth control method they are both comfortable with. He should be prepared to wear condoms or abstain from sex sometimes, like if she misses a pill. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would never waste my time on someone who didn’t care about my sexual health nor his.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

I think if he doesn’t want to have sex with a condom on, he simply hasn’t had enough time to want it enough.

I’ve been told a condom would make the little guy downstairs “wilt.” My view was…that’s too bad. We’ll have to wait. Once the little guy is enthusiastic enough, I’m sure a condom made out of itchy wool wouldn’t stop it. Experience confirms this to be the case (well, not the itchy wool part, but the rest 🙂 )

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