- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
A bit of backstory: Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been flip flopping between rings for almost 2 months now. First it was a blue sapphire, but he wanted me to have something more traditional, so we considered white sapphires. They just didn’t sparkle enough for me in person, so then I started looking into moissanite, and fell in love. I picked out 2 settings and it was his job to pick what I got.
Truth be told, I would LOVE a diamond ring (the moissy settings I chose have diamond side stones), because I love the look of diamonds, but the cost is prohibitive. It is not okay with me to either a) have a small or poor quality stone to save money, or b) to have him spend an insane amount of money on my ring just because it’s a “diamond”. Our budget for the Engagement Ring and band is about $2500 max. The stone size I fell in love with is about 1-1.5 carat cushion, which is just completely out of the question in terms of diamonds. He COULD afford it, don’t get me wrong, but I think that money is much better spent in other ways, and he agrees. In moissy, it’s more than affordable.
I know that a lot of moissy owners rock their moissy for what it is. Personally, I want to pass it off as a diamond for a lot of reasons I won’t go into (social circles, family expectations, insecurities, blah blah blah) which is why we are getting the Amora enhancement (brings it up to the color of a I/J diamond). I just ask that nobody take digs at my preference to pass it off; I really don’t care to make a statement about the diamond industry with my moissy, I just love the look of diamonds and not the cost, and to 99% of people, moissanite looks the same.
ANYWAY, onto the real issue: I told him I didn’t want anybody to know it’s not a diamond, since that’s sort of the point. Well, he goes and tells his friend! I happen to dislike this particular friend, and he is not too fond of me either, but they have been friends forever so I just smile and let it go. He got his wife diamonds in her ring, and now I am afraid that the cat is out of the bag. I think he will open his mouth just to embarass me, honestly. Overall, I am just so upset, I know some of it is irrational, but at the same time here I spent all this time picking out the perfect stone types and settings, and now I’m afraid that people will look down on it as some sort of cheap alternative, especially this friend.
I guess this is kind of a rant…sorry, and thanks for reading.