Post # 1
I used to be on here reading posts quite a bit, and dreaming about getting married, I also have a pinterest dedicated to getting married because I have been kind of obsessed with the idea lately, but I decided to take a break and try to focus on other things.
Well just yesterday my boyfriend told me he wanted to marry me one day, when he has more money, and that he thinks about how good my name would sound with his last name, and that he thinks we would make a great husband and wife! I literally gasped when he told me because it was such a surprise. I kind of suspected it because he has kind of hinted at the idea before and has talked about weddings and kids and what not.
I am really excited, and I know he is a great guy because my mom loves him and he treats his family well. But after he told me I ust felt a mixture of happieness and excitement along with some fear. Like what now? I feel like I have to start aking him some serious questions about how he thinks we should raise kids, where he wants to live, etc. Basically I want to make sure we are compatible for sure before we get married, what kinds of things are important to ask him before we get engaged?
Post # 3
Congratulations! I know the feeling exactly cause the first time my bf said it (actually he texted it to his mom) I almost lost it!
I think its really important to be honest with each other and make sure you discuss the “non negioiables”. I’ve found while the bf and I plan for this big step the more we communicate about out hopes and deams the easier the conversations get. Some things you have no idea are actually that big of a deal, and others are. I just think the more you talk the better off you’ll be!
Post # 4
Honest and open communication is the best way to go. I think you’ve got to figure out what kind of things are important to you first and then you can bring them up with your SO. I think it’s great that you recognize that you have things you need to talk about before getting engaged. I think you should bring them up at appropriate times though. I wouldn’t put them in a long laundry list, but I would discuss them as they come up naturally. You don’t want to make your SO feel too overwhelmed!
Post # 5
Getting married is a big deal! It’s logical that you would feel freaked out by it. I think that’s why it’s such a good idea to talk about it andn know that as a couple, marriage is the goal. Having time to wrap your mind around it and decide that yes, this is my future husband, is a very important thing. Let the dust settle and have solid conversations together about your future together. It will make you feel more confident moving forward. Oh…and congrats 😉
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice everyone!