Post # 1
Every couple of weeks I give FI my iPhone to sync, backup and load my pictures on to the computer. I’ve been really good at emailing any photos dress related to myself and then I delete them from my phone, but I guess I forgot a few.
He was looking through the photos from a friends house party we went to, and BAM…. there was a few pictures of my dress. I was in the bathroom at the time, and when I came back out to look at photos he showed me the screen and said “Is that your dress?” he could tell by the look on my face it was, plus I’m a horrible liar.
Since he saw the picture, I figured I would get his opinion. I’ve been having doubts about the dress for awhile prior to this, and thought I could see what he thinks. I wasn’t really expecting the response I was given. He said the dress was ok, not at all what he thought I would pick, and even called it boring!!!
In his defense, I asked for his honest opinion, and I truly believe he wasn’t trying to hurt my feelings and he has heard me gripe about my dress from time to time.
How would you ladies react? I know I have my own opinion on the dress and I need to love it, but I would really like for him to love it on me too.
Post # 3
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: Eeek. Your fiance should’ve known better than to call your dress boring!
I’m sorry. I think my fiance has seen my dress but he says he hasn’t so I’m just going to pretend I believe him. I’m worried he won’t like it but oh well! I already bought it so I’m going to try not to worry about it.
Post # 4
I’m pretty sure there are a lot of guys that think dresses are boring – especially wedding dresses; they all look the same!!
My fiance has seen a photo of my dress, and his initial reaction was “That looks so weird.” He still encouraged me to buy it, though, because he could see that I looked happier in it and, after the initial reaction of seeing me in a coloured dress, he could see that it actually looked good on me, and that the design suited my personality well.
Ultimately, if you still love the dress, get it! Unless your fiance’s reaction was “Oh god, it’s hideous! I really hope that’s not the one you chose,” I think you’re fine. As long as you’re happy with your dress, he’ll be happy with it 🙂
Post # 5
You asked for his opinion, and if it is important to you that he love the dress too, it might be time to go dress shopping again…
Post # 6
Here’s the thing- of course he’s gonna think the dress looks ‘boring.’ He’s a man, it’s a white dress. All wedding dresses look the same (to men).
It’s going to be a COMPLETELY different ball game on the actual day, when you’ve got your hair and makeup done, and you’ve got all your accessories in place. And you’ll be wearing your pretty pretty jewelry.
He’s going to be BLOWN AWAY.
Good news is, your wedding is almost a year away. If you don’t show him the dress again, he’ll have forgotten completely what it looks like by then.
Post # 7
Were you “jacked up”? That makes a HUGE difference. If you love it, go with your gut. Plus, what do boys know they fart and burp and think its funny.
Post # 8
Don’t let it bother you. I didn’t let my FI shop with me, but I would show him the pictures afterwards (I can’t keep it from him, I was too excited and he is my best friend and had to know!).
So anyway, I showed him the top 2 from the day I bought my dress and asked his honest opinion of which he liked better, and you know what? He chose the wrong dress.
But that’s okay, because in retrospect, I hate that dress on me, and am EXTREMELY glad I went with my “boring” one instead. However, I can’t wait to see me in it again, and remember that it isn’t boring, or I wouldn’t have fallen in love with it.
Post # 9
I’m sure your all right. More than likely he has forgot what it looks like already. He just saw me in the dress, no makeup, and I wasn’t “jacked up”.
I’ve been having some serious doubts about the dress lately, and I think his comment threw me over the edge a bit in that maybe I didn’t make the right decision. I guess I have some time to decide on what to do about it.
Post # 10
LOL I think my FI would be relieved if I picked a boring dress! Not going to happen though so he has learned to embrace my quirky side. He is actually really looking forward to our crazy outfits now so I think your FI will come around to 😀
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Earlier today I was showing my FI dresses on the bee that other brides had that I thought were gorgeous. He didn’t like them. Then I thought I’d be sneaky and show him my dress on me (making sure my face was not in the picture) and said “What do you think of this one?” His response “It’s alright” At first I was like “OMG he hates it.” Then I realized the picture was not the greatest and like a PP said I wasn’t all “jacked up”. I know on our wedding day he’ll love the dress as much as I do. Funny thing is when he saw a picture of my dress on the model he loved it so he didn’t recognize the dress on me at the shop.Your FI won’t remember either. And the day of your wedding he’ll wonder why he ever doubted your decision on the dress.
Post # 12
FI saw a picture of the first dress I went with but it was just an online picture. His response was that he didn’t expect me to pick something so ‘girly’. We wound up completely changing our venue (getting married on the beach now so I have a much simpler dress) and he hasn’t seen the new dress I got, but honestly, I don’t care if he does. He has such a short memory that he would probably forget it an hour later if I asked what it looked like.
Post # 13
My SO went with me when I went dress shopping. He horrified a wedding planner when he said one dress looked like I “s*** wedding gown”. Hysterical!
Incidentally, we both loved the same gown.
Post # 14
@SnowInApril: lol! That has actually happened to me with my FI. One day he expressed preference for one dress and then another day he expressed preference for another one. I figure on the actual day he will be so smitten and happy he won’t even care. 🙂
Post # 15
Were you in the dress in the pictures? I find that it really changes what a dress looks like. Whether you see it online or on the rack, it looks so much different on a real bride. My best friend was recently married and when she sent me a picture of her dress from the website I was like “meh” (I obviously didn’t say this! In retrospect, the model looked bored, had way too much makeup on, and the editorial just didn’t mesh with the dress) and when I went with her to try it on, I wasn’t impressed with it on the rack (same with when it was hanging up on the day of the wedding, it’s just a bunch of which lace) but when she put it on, I started hysterically bawling because it was so perfectly amazing and beautiful. Some things just have to be on the right person to look perfect. Her wedding pictures came out beautifully and should be the real ad for the dress.
However, if you already have real doubts about the dress…maybe it is time to address them.