- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Hey everyone! I just have some dress DRAMA on my mind and I want to unload and get some opinions! I don’t have any close girlfriends who are engaged or getting married, so I have no one to talk to except Fiance and he should not be privy to this info.
So this past week, I bought my beautiful wedding dress. It’s totally unconventional, it’s a Matthew Williamson ivory gown with a pink and gray subtle peacock print on it. Empire waist, very drappy and “bohemian” as the website advertises. We’re having a small beach wedding in Hawaii and I did not want a traditional style wedding dress (although I was contemplating ballgowns).
My day to day fashion style is really off-beat so it fits me perfectly. Anyways to make a long story short, I bought it… the order got canceled and I was so upset because this dress is from 2011 season and was sold out everywhere. I was talking to my friend and she was trying to make me feel better by saying “Oh this dress wasn’t meant to be, maybe it’s cursed or something so you’re better off!” She was totally joking and I’m not the superstitious type, but I wasn’t getting the dress anyways so that doesn’t matter and I was like okay fine, I’m just going to think that because I was THAT upset.
Anyways lo and behold, the next day I FOUND the dress on another website in a size smaller than me, but the price was right and the size is something I could manage. I quickly snapped it up and it arrived yesterday. SO GORGEOUS. Everything I dreamt about, perfectly my style and I love love love it. So flowy and etheral, it made me feel so good (except it was viciously heavy and too long). After I initially lost the dress, I looked everywhere for a replacement and couldn’t find anything remotely close to this dress. So I’m so happy that I finally got it and I was teasing my Fiance that my dress was so different than everything else (we watch Yes to the Dress a lot so he knows typical styles) and he was going to be so surprised.
So today I was sleeping in and Fiance was using my phone to take pictures of our dog doing something funny. He ended up seeing one picture of dress and told me when I woke up! I was so distraught and sad but he kept on insisting he didn’t really see anything but he knows it’s patterned. AGH! My head exploded! I was like nooo that’s the best part of it and we ended up getting into a little spat because I was spiraling and emotional and he kept on trying to insist he didn’t see anything and that it didn’t matter. Then he got frustrated and we argued about it because he was like “What can I say to make this better? I’m sorry! I didn’t meant to see it, it was an accident and I feel horrible!”.
We made up, talked it out and everything is hunky dory, but now I’m starting to freak out. He saw the dress… okay old superstition about man seeing dress before is bad luck. My friend’s comment about cursed dresses is creeping up on me. Who the heck argues about wedding dresses? Geez! And we argued about it the day after I received it!
I know I’m being silly but a part of me wants to return the dress and get a new one. But I love this dress SO SO much and I’m pretty convinced I would not be able to ever find another one remotely close to it because I want a patterned dress that’s not floral and those are so rare and far between. I love the subtle peacock print because I grew up in a city that had wild peacocks running around the residential areas and my mom always had stray peacock feathers decorated around the house, and the print is just so nostalgic and hits a soft spot with me. I love the color and the cut and ugh, I’m so torn.
What do you Bees think? Am I just being insane? Should I keep the dress? The wedding isn’t for two years and I didn’t plan on buying a dress this early but I just stumbled across this one and fell in love. I don’t plan on looking for other dresses and that time period where I thought I lost it, I was so sad and depressed. But I can’t help thinking, oh my gosh, what if wedding dresses ARE bad luck (like the Vera Wang curse or something).
I know I sound very silly but I’m hoping something understands my psychosis, lol
Here’s a stock picture of the dress