Post # 1
….because I’m buying accessories for the wedding! They’re not expensive accessories, either. We’re talking a $35 beautiful crystal edge veil from Etsy. $20 garter set from Etsy. $15 earrings and a $12 bracelet from Charming Charlie. WTF? I could be spending soooooo much more, but I’m trying to save us money! How does he not see that? I’m not looking for advice, just to vent. What a jackass…
Post # 3
@MrsSweetT: They just don’t get it sometimes. My FI is trying to pick at my budget too. He just doesn’t understand that I’ve already got it down to the minimum and am spending hardly anything on these things. He legit wants me to not even do centerpieces… I think your spending sounds perfectly reasonable. A $35 veil?! Awesome!
Post # 4
classic man. totally clueless!
Post # 5
Do you have a budget, and are you wirhin the budget?
Post # 6
@MrsSweetT: Sounds reasonable to me! I would show him some other options that are much more pricey and make him appreciate your thriftiness!
Post # 7
Since you aren’t looking for advice, I won’t give any. Sorry you’re frustrated.
Post # 8
Don’t worry, men will never understand how important a wedding is to a woman.
My FI are pretty sweet most of the time, let me do whatever I want but sometimes, he still made stupid comments like I care about how a table # look (I spend $4 on amazon.com) and tell others I have “standard”…….. ai, men
Post # 9
@MrsSweetT: “Respectful of money?” Really, thats the words he used? I don’t think you can really be “respectful of money.”
I would show him the bridal salon’s cost of veils. Those usually run $100 +
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MrsSweetT: Have you already agreed on a budget? If so, point out where in the budget the money for accessories is coming from. If you don’t have at least a basic budget then you need to sit down and write one out. My accessories fell under the bridal attire budget and so long as I didn’t go over that amount, he couldn’t complain about anything I was buying to wear for the wedding, be it the dress, the shoes, the flower for my hair, etc…
Post # 11
@MrsSweetT: Men! When they spend hundreds on silly gaming/computer equipment that’s all fine and dandy but $35 for a veil is a “disrespectful attitude towards money”? I sometimes wonder how we manage to coexist with them
Post # 12
I think you are doing an AMAZING job. A $35 veil?? OMGGG. When my fiance says stuff like this… I show him comparable prices from standard lowe-price vendors so he gets the idea.
FOR EXAMPLE. With your veil… you can be like “Here LOOK at these David’s Bridal priced veils.” (Not hating on Davids Bridal at all but they are notoriously at the less expensive end of the bridal spectrum). But even at davids bridal they are $100 +. Just educate him.
Post # 13
My veil was over $400, that’s disrespectful of money.. if that’s even a thing.
Show him what these things are supposed to cost, and then he’ll see how much you’re actually saving!
Post # 14
Of course they never say anything if it’s for their car accessories, video game accessories etc! This is for a wedding…the only one in your life and your costs are prudent IMHO.
Post # 15
Men! I’d bring him over to the boards next time someone is waffling between a $600 veil and an $800 veil. Or trying to decide between $200 pairs of shoes. Just to be like “Look, I am a wonderful mistress of frugality. Love it.”
Post # 16
Is he willing to let you spend on lingerie? Not being purposely provacative. Oddly, my FI and I are both cheap and he saw a Bee post on the subject and told me I had free reign (however he knows me well enough to know that I will cap that too). My FI though is the “spoil yourself” type when it comes to making me happy…