Post # 1
He has been pushing me away, wanting space in the form of a confusing break/break up. He is not talking to me or his family about whatever is bothering him. He works fulltime at one job, part time at another, and is doing fulltime school and he doesn’t get that much sleep. We were just texting and he said he feels like his life is worthless. I don’t know what else to do or if I can even do anything to help?
Post # 3
Its seems that your boyfriend is over tiried ! I was almost in the same position one year ago (full time and part time job and part time MA course), sometimes I just wished someone to tell me that I can do it and the moral support that come with it. Doing a lot of repettive things sometimes can take the fun out of life, I used to feel guilty to go out as I could use that time to study or something !
Just let him know that you are there for him, It used to help me alot
Post # 4
My boyfriend had a bit of a tough time last year. He had a lot of school work on his plate, an internship, and trying to keep up with his music production. He felt his life revolved around school work and that he had no time or inspiration for his music. He was depressed about it.
I think the key is to just make sure he can get extra rest when possible, and for you to be a doting girlfriend. Let him know if he needs to talk, you’re there for him.
Post # 5
If he truly suffers from depression, you can encourage him to talk to a professional. Maybe let his family know. Depression is serious and can be lethal. But, there is only so much you can do.
You surely can encourage and express your concerns. Pay close attention to comments about feeling that life is worthless. And don’t hesitate to ask someone if they are thinking of harming themselves.
Post # 6
I tried to get him to talk to his mom or dad but he hasn’t. I don’t know if he’s even planning on it because he told me he doesn’t need their feedback. In addition to being crazy busy has been hanging out with people who in my opinion are a bad influence on him and he’s putting his trust in these people when they don’t care about him while pushing the people who really care about him away. I talked to his mom about it earlier, she said to just give him space so I’m going to go back to doing that for awhile because it stresses me out too much to keep dealing with this. I tried my best, I think he needs to want to help himself.
Post # 7
My FI is in a similar boat, he works full time evening shifts as well as goes to school full time. He starts work at 5.. when I get off. He gets home at 1am when I’m asleep and then he’s up at 6am the next day to do it all over again. So as you can imagine, he’s not always a happy camper..or even himself. He can be so tired that he’s just completely aloof. Schedules like this are so exhausting.. he is always sick too which I’m convinced has to do with his crazy schedule/sleep deprivation. He often gets down about his life like your guy. I really think it is just the result of a go-go-go lifestyle and no rest. Anyways, I try really hard to do things where we can reconnect on the weekends and I am constantly letting him know how proud I am of him as well as reminding him of why he is working so hard and what rewards will be in the future because of it. When he gets a chance to sleep and just breathe.. things seem to be a lot better. Just try to continue to be supportive, I’m hoping it’s just a rut that will pass.