He set the wedding date, but hasn't actually proposed

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Eh, you’re engaged. I understand why you would want a proposal but not everyone does it. My dad didn’t propose.

Post # 4
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Maybe subtly let him know that you don’t need a ring to propose. If he took you out for a nice dinner and then asked you formally, it might make you feel more happy about telling people. Then you can say he’s designed you a ring and it’s being made at the moment.


Honestly, if it’s a big deal to you, you’re going to resent him for not giving you the proposal moment a lot of women dream about – after all, if this guy is the one, it should be the only proposal you’ll ever have, and if that’s important to you and you don’t have it, it could cause issues later on.

Post # 5
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@GillyToo:  a proposal doesn’t need a ring – he can definitely do a whole proposal and then you can tell people etc and the ring will be done in a few weeks. easy peasy.

Post # 6
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@GillyToo:  I agree with @somersetdarling: – tell him the proposal moment is important to you, and that he can propose with a $10 piece of costume jewelry while the ring gets custom made.

Post # 7
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@GillyToo:  You’re already engaged.  But if you really want a moment where he asks, you, tell him that you want that.  Or propose to HIM and then ask him to reciprocate!

Post # 8
6855 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My dad never proposed to my mom and they will have their 40th anniversary this year. You are getting married!

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