- 5 years ago
So back in June, SO and I had a ring custom made. We decided to wait to get engaged until after his cousin’s wedding (later this month) because we didn’t want to take away attention at their wedding that they had been saving for for years. A couple weeks later, his little sister got engaged! He had originally planned on proposing in october or november, but last week when he saw his family they were giving him a really hard time not believeing he was going to finish his dissertation on time this spring (he is perfectly on track,) and there have been a few other stressors with his siblings going through a hard time that is straining his very close family. So we had a talk after that, he was stressing out, feeling like they wouldn’t just be happy for us, there would be a lot of qualifiers, and a lot of attention still on his sibling’s problems. But he also felt like delaying was disrespecting me or making it seem like he had doubts that he doesn’t have. I told him we could wait until the spring, when his family would be able to tell that he was on track, if that is what he wanted, but that I just wanted to be in the loop about it. SO I was kind of bummed but ready to put if off to support him. BUT THEN, he was talking to his dad today, and his dad asked if he had thought about our future, so he told him he bought a ring back in June. He said his dad was surprised, since it was the first time he mentioned it to him (he has told his mom he was planning to marry me) but that his dad said he supported us getting married! So, chances of us getting engaged this fall have just gone back up! I’m trying not to get my hopes up too high, but I’m getting excited again! And I had to share it with someone!