@amoret11: no advice, but my own brother unfriended me on facebook because he didn't agree with some stuff i put. guys can be moody and sensitive for the dumbest reasons lol.
@amoret11: Yikes. Awkward. Is it possible that he was joking? I could see my BIL doing this as a joke. If he really unfriended you because of your political views than I would just take the high road and be nice to him and act normally but I wouldn't reaccept him on FB, OR I would accept him and then just block him from seeing any of my stuff.. Wait, is that not the high road? :)
@FutureMRS3lastnames: Not joking, I thought it was super weird but then I realized that he's indeed that close minded.
Taking the high road would be to reaccept him as a friend and do nothing else. It is the high road because you are helping him to make it like "nothing happened".
It is up to HIM to hide your posts from his feed (which he should have done in the first place). You don't want to hide your stuff from him and then have problems when he tries to look at your wedding photos or photos of future babies or something.
It sucks that he is close minded but he's your sister's husband. Suck it up and reaccept him.
@amoret11: Accept the friend request. He unfriended you in the heat of the moment and now he's changed his mind. What's the problem?
Posting political stuff on FB is usually not a good idea, unless you're prepared to take criticism for it.
To keep the peace and keep awkwardness to a minimum, I'd re-add him and put him on a limited list so that he can't see everything you post. I have my FIL on something like this, because I don't want the drama of de-friending him, but the constant barrage of political/racist/offensive posts and stupid cartoons are just WAY too much to bite my tongue.
I'd add him back. When you see him during your visit, make a lighthearted joke about how he deleted you. I think it's common for people to purge friends around election season. Probably not as big of a deal as it might seem.
Personally I'd add him and move on. I'd probably try to see the funny side of using facebook as a political mediator...
Just add him and put him on a limited profile where he can't see your wall and forget about it. Don't let it affect your non-fb relationship with sis and BIL.
I would re friend him as well, makes him feel a bit small and you are taking the high road, your sister obviously went to a lot of effort with him to see your side and get him to re friend you so I wouldn't knock that as well.
@amoret11: FB seems to engender entirely too much drama among otherwise reasonable adults.
@MrsBot: "When you see him during your visit, make a lighthearted joke about how he deleted you."
Sorry I think that's a bad idea. Better to accept the request and pretend the whole thing didn't happen. Bringing it up would just be awkward.
I guess ya'll right. I'll just accept him again, don't know if that will cause further friction. I will just restrict him a lot from my posts. As I said, I don't usually use FB as a political platform and when I do post something political, I'm always open to debate and I'm always willing to "agree to disagree." On my other argument, he's the one who textes me asking for my opinion, I guess he wants to check if I've become conservative after democrats screw up (e.g. Lybia/Hillary Clinton etc etc). However, he cannot take other's opinions. It's as if he asks you hoping for an answer he will hever get from me. WEIRD! My sister tells me he does that a lot and ruins people's meals with his outbursts and all that good stuff. Really painful! but he's otherwise a funny guy when you don't say Obama (or he who must not be named).
@UltrasoundTech: Exactly! Why not just unsubsribe, if someone is posting something you don't agree with? I have a friend that posts things I don't agree with, so I unsubscribed and just look her up every so often to see if there's anything I want to look at. How hard is that?
@amoret11: This is what I would do: I would not accept the friend request but continue being friendly to him as if nothing has happened. It is JUST facebook after all.
I would probably accept him as its like saying "water under the bridge" and his request was a step forward and should be recognized.. It will make it less awkward too..
My advice is it's Facebook, don't make a big deal about it. He probably doesn't want to know or see your political views, and perhaps if they generated discussion on your feed he was offend.
I know a lot of people who unfriend those who post religious and political things on fb. While I think ti's a bit petty, I don't take fb too seriously.
When you go visit if you want to clear the air, do it, then let it go and continue to have a good relationship with him.
it's just facebook - there's nothing that should be awkward in your "real life" relationship.
FI has deleted some of his cousins, some of them have deleted him, they still have a "normal", non-awkward relationship in person.
I delete annoying people daily, not sure why some people find that immature?
This is a perfect example of why it's a bad idea to let FB rule your "real life" relationships. I would accept and move on. Also, posting anything of the political or religious faction opens you up to debate, hurt feelings, being unfriended and all sorts of uncomfortable scenarios. If you're ok with that, post away. If you're not, maybe FB isn't the best place for you to display your preferences when it comes to highly sensitive ( for some people) subjects.
My brother did this to my aunt lol Guys don't realize how much drama that can cause! It was probably a 3 month long drawn out thing with their situation with me in the middle. I (the LITTLE sister who is 20 years younger than him) had to message him & tell him that he hurt my aunt's feelings & that he needed to fix it & then tell my 50 something year old aunt that she should accept his friend request again & that he wasn't trying to hurt her feelings. It was funny as a by-stander though because it was just so ridiculous. Sounds like your BIL is the same way. Just accept him, block him from most of your posts & when you see him IRL act like nothing ever happened. FB is a ridiculous source of drama to me.
It's just Facebook. I've unfriended people when I didn't want to see their political crap. I still like them, just don't want to see it. One of my husband's "best friends" friended me for a few days, then unfriended me. He's still friends with our dog. Do. Not. Care.
I never understood why people don't just hide people from their newsfeed instead of deleting them. Much less awkward.
I'm "guilty" of posting liberal stuff on fb too, but on the flipside there are defintely some people I liked better before we became fb friends. Sometimes I think hiding that person's updates is a better solution than always internally fuming when I see their name pop up.
ETA - okay that didn't really answer the question, but I would say just accept his invite so save awkwardness. I just don't understand why he didn't just hide you in the first place.
Unfriending someone over a political difference in opinion is silly and petty - ESPECIALLY if they're family. You can hide someone from your news feed so you don't have to see their status updates.
I think you should bring it up to him like it's no big deal, but also tell him how to hide peoples statuses.
Honestly, I usually put people on "hide" that continue to post political or religious things all the time. Not because I disagree with their view (people have different belief systems which is cool with me!), but because they go on and on about it to the point that it gets annoying. I don't delete them though. He probably just overreacted to something that you posted.
I think you should just take the high road on this. He was probably just "huffy" at the moment and decided to delete you. Some people have a short fuse when politics is involved. Seriously, I have read a few full on blow outs during the election which were way worst then a deletion in my opinion....
My mom does this all the time! She unfriends people for the smallest, dumbest things or if they dare post something she doesn't agree with, or if they post something that she considers "bragging".... even though she's never worked, travels monthly and has a million dollar home. I would honestly just ignore him, he's being a child, don't stoop down to his level.
I hide anyone who posts political shit. It's annoying. If they unfriend you they don't know how to use Facebook or are making a stupid stance that is totally over the top for this sort of thing. Everyone's view differ. It's how the world works.
Yeah I'd just take the high road and ignore it or laugh it off with him, show him how little the posts mean to you and maybe he'll add you again eventually when he sees that you aren't trying to start some kind of politics war. I typically just unsubscribe from people's updates when I see a bunch of political junk I don't agree with - I'll only unfriend them if it is something REALLY offensive that they post. Maybe he didn't know he could hide/unsubscribe?
My mil unfriended me for similar reasons. We are opposites on the political spectrum and she posts nothing but political things but she unfriended me because I'm too supportive of "the gays" according to her.
It really upset me at first to be dumped by her but now I'm glad, I don't have to hide who I am and if she's nice to my face, that's all tha really matters. FB isnt' worth fighting over.
I have many friends on FB who do not share my political views. We simply block each other's posts from showing up on our newsfeeds.
It's JUST Facebook, and it really means nothing. None of my BILs or SILs are my friends on FB, like who cares?
I've unfriended people on FB before over political stuff, but it was before there was a "hide" option, and it was really only with people who posted NOTHING but politcal stuff. I've since friended them again after a little time, and if they post something I don't like they can block the posts they find offensive, just like I do. Seriously, I think that option saved several friendships this election season.
Sorry you're dealing with this situation, but really, it is just Facebook. If he gets all bent out of shape because of something you posted, that's on him, not you. Don't worry about it.
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So, my sister's husband unfriended me on Facebook because according to him, I'm too liberal and he does not agree with my political views. On my defense, I've posted about three things expressing my political views on some issues on the months leading up to the election and a few funny political memes. That's IT! I swear I don't make Facebook a political battlefield. That being said, I thought I had a good relationship with my BIL. I mean, we joke a lot etc. Typical BIL and SIL relationship. I have purchased tickets to go se my sister in a couple of months and of course I'll stay at their house because duh! I'm visiting my sister. The thing is that I my sister made kind of a biggie and asked him why he would delete me from FB yada, yada, yada. I told my sister not to make a huge deal and that I didn't really mind. However, now things are super awkward and he sent me a new request (which I refuse to accept since he cannot tolerate other people's opinions, it'd be better if he doesn't read htem).
Sooooo... Bee's what would you do? or how to take the high road on this one?